Which does a child need more, and what is the differences in the relationships of
mommy-baby
daddy-baby
Do these relationship patterns change when babies grow into children, and then later into teens, and then into adults?
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Mummy!
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reminds me of when i was 6 yr old .. when first time my doc asked me .. WHO DO U LIKE MORE and i replied BOTH .. but he stressed on picking one up and i chooz DAD since he was the one sitting beside me.
babies grow into children ? hmmmm interesting .. u learn something new everyday !
p/s: be more specific. u always keep enough margin to bash over with someone who disagree. smart!
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Both are equally important on different levels.
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both are equally important. dads provide support, confidence and moms are there for all ur emotional needs. not that dads dont do that.. but its just different.
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Both are equally important but as children grow older, boys need the guidance of their fathers and girls need the guidance of their mothers.
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Mothers are more important in the early years. Per Islamic jurisprudence regarding divorce, the custody of the male child is the right of the mother until the child is capable of taking care of his own self. This has been approximated at seven years of age. For a female child, mother gets custody till she reaches puberty. after thhat the dad takes over.
This is not to belittle the roles of either parent, but to illustrate the importance of mothers and that they takes precedence over the father in the early years of development of child.
Islamic shariah aside, i am sure there are tons of other psychological research that will attest to that.
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Like others have said, both parents are equally important. Mothers may have an edge for some, as I feel mothers provide more emotional support and also play a pivotal role in raising/rearing the child. Many also look up to their mothers as their role models as well. Whereas, fathers play a major role in financial stability and security.
The relationship pattern and dependency does change with time.
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I dont dispute that mothers and fathers complement each other in the rearing of their children...PCG its not a competition...both have different roles and fulfil them differently...as to whether individuals fulfil these roles is dependent on the person...
I just have a couple of questions...do you feel the mothers and fathers role can be fulfilled by one parent?...do you believe a single parent is able to provide what a mother and father can?...and do you believe that a single mother and a single father are capable of bringing up their children as effectively as the other?...
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I think its better to have a mom-dad vs. single parent, not because a single-parent is lacking anything really. But rather, with two parents you get two different perspectives, and with one parent, you get one-perspective.
Por example, my mother is more traditional, and when I was young she didn’t know how to deal with situations in a civilized American way. Like I once got in a fight with my elementary school best friend, and my mom drove over to the little girl’s house and picked a fight with HER mom, while I hid in the car out of shame. Some guy also threw a flirtatious comment at me while he was riding his bike back home and our car was passing by. You know what my mother does? She gets out of the car and starts yelling at him. Of course, he was on a bike so he peddled away really fast.
My dad on the other hand has been here much longer, and he’s in business so he knows better on how to handle people. So many times he would correct my mother, so that I don’t pick up wrong ways.
Vice versa - my dad was iniitally not religious at all - I got my interest in religion from my mom.
I could write a whole list on how they each have contributed something different to me, but that would go on forever.
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A single parent isn't lacking? Hmm...PCG are you normally this delusional?
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I said it was, but not in the way others normally think as per definition of gender roles. Read my response again, please.
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Kids need both mom and dad for different reasons. It shapes their perceptions and beliefs about the sexes. Daddy's girls and momma's boys are very true stereotypes. Up to age 2 or so Safia just wanted Umma and now she is a daddy's girl. If I don't give her something she immediately runs to him, "Ubba, can I have some candy?" He ofcourse can't say no to her.