Hey,
My first born will turn 9 months in October and I have unexpectedly conceived again. Anyone with such an experience? Did you continue breastfeeding? I feed my baby with no top feed at all. How did you deal with it emotionally? I did not want another baby for another two years.
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This is why one should use contraceptives for gaps between children. Yes, while breastfeeding the probability of getting pregnant is lower however it is not low enough. The scholars of Islam say that one should breastfeed for two years. One of my distant cousins is in the same situation and she is still breastfeeding.
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I never retained my periods after my baby and we were ALSO using contraceptives. It has more to do with Allah’s will rather than our inefficiency with trying to avoid having another baby so soon.
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Were you using a single contraceptive method or stacking? Condoms + Mini Pill + Breastfeeding should drop the probability down to very rare levels. Yes, only abstinence is 100% effective. Allah says that he does as he wills and this is the reason why we are allowed to use contraceptives.
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Oh Warrior…I know that we are encouraged to take precautions or tie our camel first. But I also believe that if life is destined to come into being, koi rok nahi sakta. There are couples who don’t use contraceptives and even with all conditions being normal don’t conceive a child. A relative had a miscarriage before the 3 month mark. Her SIL, who is also my cousin, was sort of blaming the miscarriage on silly external factors like shadi celebrations and chalna phirna…when there are women who have a carried babies to full term while facing tragedies like death. What is meant to survive or come into existence…will. What isn’t…won’t.
Advising use of contraceptives in the future is fine. But now that OP is already preggers, it’s futile to think “what if” or “if only she had done this or that.”
Op…my friend conceived her second son while her first baby was only a few months old. Now both her sons are toddlers (ages 2 and 3)…and she is 5 months pregnant with a much desired girl, MashaAllah. My mom became pregnant with my brother when I was only 3-4 months I think. May Allah make it easier for you, Amin.
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While I am not in the same situation so I can’t give advice speaking from experience, I can say that I know lot’s of people who have been in a similar situation as you. They continued breastfeeding without any issues. Just be sure to maintain a really good diet and get enough rest. Mine is 10.5 months and I actually WISH I was already pregnant with another. Believe me, while you may not have wanted this so soon, everything is meant to happen for a reason. It’s such a blessing from Allah. May you have a healthy pregnancy and delivery InshAllah.
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I was in this exact situation few months ago… I had to discontinue bfeeding my 9 month old coz I was feeling really weak… he is 17 months now n my scheduled c section is next month…
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Thanks for your words ladies
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meet me. had a c sec this january and conceived in may again. so what? nothing can beat Allah’s will. So whatever comes from Him, is surely for the best. just hang in there and say alhamdolillah. everything will.be fine.
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Alhumdulilah 
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think of the wonderful bond that the siblings will share.. one of my friends has two kids 11 months apart and let me tell you, when I see them together, I wish I did too.. they dont need play dates, they are just amazing together mashaAllah. One of the best things you can do for your first child is to be able to give them a sibling and if they are closer in age, hard for you but wonderful for them.
re the breast feeding.. see how you feel.. check with your doc.. I think the supply goes down once you are pregnant but it may not, if you can do it- fine if not, at 9 months, she can manage formula and solid food. dont worry, take care of yourself and listen to your body. good luck with everything.
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gtg is right on the spot! its by.far the best gift you.could.give to your elder one. second pregnencies are rather easier lol so in sha Allah you.will fare through fine. just make it sure you see your dr regularly for your follow ons.and dont ever over estimate your health. you need to be super healthy for the baby number two now when you are soon going to be a mommy of two!
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gtg is right on the spot. this is by far the best gift you can give to your elder one! and from.experience, second pregnancies are rather easy lol so in sha Allah you will fare through well. just do not over estimate your health and make it sure to see your dr regularly for follow ons. you.need to stay super healthy for baby number two , now that you are gonna be the mommy of two in sha Allah
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Mirage congrats with ur second Ma Shaa Allah.. And op I know so many people with this age difference I think it’s great as when kids grow up they have someone to play with share things with etc..
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My daughter does not accept top feed. She cries and turns blue and rejects bottle. She is a healthy golu baby and takes my feed often. I have started feeling very weak. What can I do to make her take the bottle? Btw good luckmirage.
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Me and my sister are 13 months apart. My mom got pregnant with me when my sister was 3-4 months old. We’re super close and best friends, always have been 
Your kids will inshallah have the best relationship!!
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I m sure evryone has already replied but all the best!
U ll b happy for this in the long run.