Re: moher in law issue. this time i confronted her. yayy for me.
Nope….you should be “jee jee” b/c this is the life you CHOSE! You chose to get married while knowing that MIL did not want you as her DIL. You remained in the marriage and had 2 children….all the while being fully aware that your MIL does not like you, will make your life difficult, and your husband will not move out. Heck you even managed to get to UK….only to return. Did you for a minute think that anything would be different than the past 4 years? You knew exactly what you were coming back to.
We have told you this over and over again. Your MIL will NOT change. Your husband will not move out. No one is forcing you to live in that house. So if you’re choosing to stay in this marriage and live under your MIL’s roof……then you really don’t have much right to complain anymore.
As for the house…..I know for a fact we have been through this before. The ENTIRE house is hers. Why is that so difficult for you to understand? MIL’s house….MIL’s rules. She can run it however she wants to…and re-arrange whatever she wants to. You don’t like it, then move out and get your own house.
What your MIL told your daughter is very wrong. But keep in mind….she will NOT change. You and your husband can talk to her all you/him want to…..MIL will NOT change herself. Sooner or later….this situation will repeat itself. There is NOTHING you can do to prevent this from happening again as along as you live in her house. The only exception would be for you to be with your daughters 24/7.
P.S. You knew that your MIL snoops. That’s why you locked your room when you left for vacation. Once again…..You should have thought through the situation & locked your children’s room too if you didn’t want MIL to go through their things.