Re: moher in law issue. this time i confronted her. yayy for me.
Ok Nadz, here’s the deal…you know, she knows you know and we all know that she does not like you as her bahu. She never has and likely never will. In the 4 years you’ve been on the forums, we all know that to be true. You have been advised time and time and time again to learn to **pick your battles. **
You say she went into “your portions of the house” to clean or snoop or whatever…well guess what, I’m sure she still considers it all her house. She straightened up and rearranged your kids rooms, which are still her grandchildren as well. In the grand scheme of things, throughout all the maslay and phadday you have had, is that really such a big deal? Annoying, yes…big deal, no. She didn’t touch your room or your things this time because your room was locked, itna kaafi nahin hai kya?
Now, as far as the remarks about your daughter’s skin color, yes, I would be upset too. I don’t think it’s out of line for you to ask her not to mention it in front of your daughter, but let’s face it, that will cause drama as well.
I don’t for a minute think that you would actually strike her or threaten to in front of anyone else (I don’t take your venting here as a serious threat!), but even then, you need to keep your ghussa in check and rise above. For whatever reasons, you have made the choice to stay with this man and live in pakistan with his family, whom you know dislike you. When are you going to learn to accept them, with their good and bad habits and move on?