the hurting of someone’s feelings is the worst thing that anyone ever does, especially when it is not deserved by someone, who becomes the target of mocking and hurtful comments.
when people act racist and sexist - ignorant and distasteful, do you correct thme right away sternly and in a confrontational manner or do you keep quiet?
if you stay quiet or something along the line of staying quiet, how do you intend to get the message across that the behaviors were and are unaccepted and abhorable?
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wake up n smell the saag bibi-bushwari...with so much going on in world....worse than worse and even worse...all you can think of is hurting feelings...
Jab kisi ki feelings hurt hon gi tu woh bychara 
hi ker sakta hy na ab qwaid o zawabit ke tehat is ki bhi ijazat nahi:hehe:
tell me which is better or worse?
a person who had chergha…neehari…qorma…haleem…koftay…beryani…sheeh keboobs…naan…lussi for dinner but he is sad that there was no raita…
or
a person who goes to sleep hungry everyday…not a single grain of rice to eat…
thats wht dushi-begum is talking about…when ppl left right up down are being killed like pests…she is worry about those with hurt-feelings
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is this the best the two of you can raise your level of thinking to?
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yes. so sadly you will have to lower urself to our standards....if not possible then stay where you are and talk to ur shadow and air around you.
*I just ignore them at first. But later on koi ziada behodgi dikhay tu:mocking:(mujh se ziada koi dikha nahi sakta:wink:)
I remember once about 9:30PM I was completing my assignment in LRC. there was a group of boys two of them were next to me they started kissing each other. I just looked at them and just moved my eyes back to computer. I thought these kind of activities are not allowed at campus I have to tell the mentor about it but then thought, you know( sannu ki, dafaa kero lannat bhyju ju ker rahy hain kerny du) and at that time the boy who was the mentor there for that night came to them and asked them to work nicely if they need to stisfy their lust have to leave campus. Those boys just laughed out loud and said hey why are you ofeended? it’s natural.( I dunno what was natural there)mentor replied politely (kamzor sa nazuk sa larka tha, intehaai shareef insan believe me) I am not ofended but others could be. Now boys gave me a big smile and asked me are you feel offended? I said, YES! One of them said, “You must not be.” and again hugged each other. I smiled and said, " You asked me this question and I thought you care about me and I just told you the truth yes I been offended by your this act. If you don’t care about others don’t ask them. If you asked them have to respect their thoughts or opinion whatever it is:) They looked at each other and saying sorry to mentor left the premises. *That mentors eyes were really thankful at that time.
Agar meri duty hoti tu main zaror kehti agar main koi official person nahi hon tu main ayhtraz kerti hon dosron ko pind o nasahy kerny sy magar agar kisi ko madad chahiy and I have felt ky he/she is right koi mujhy kalmay haq buland kerny sy nahi rok sakta.
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Dushwari:
Your post gave the answer!
makhan is not good for dushi's health...it will go straight to her thighs and that will hurt her feelings
But Sory I can’t:rotfl:
makhan is not good for dushi's health...it will go straight to her thighs and that will hurt her feelings
LOL....Arey Bahi low fat hai. Chal Jayega Aur Jal Jayega thori walk ke baad!
aap Margarine istymal ker rahy hain kia:aq:
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^ Nahi Ghar mein banaya tha low fat milk se. :-)
Dush,
At first, maybe even a few times, I'll stay quiet. BUT, then I get angry enough to say something to the person. I dealt with a *ty superior at work who once made a disrespectful tactless remark about Asians. She also made my life miserable. I tolerated her for a few times, then I gave her the cold shoulder and even responded with sarcastic remarks to some of her comments. That cow was so transparent with her malicious agenda. It got to the point, where I felt that I had to teach her a lesson. I refused to be treated like that, so I reported her to the Union and arranged for a meeting with the boss, the union leader, myself, and the toxic supervisor. And during that meeting, I let my boss know about all the * that she's pulled. She sat there quiet, and uncomfortable, her lips pursed in a constipated line.
I may not have gained much out of the situation, but I discovered a new personal strength. My union leader, was very disgusted with my superior and the boss.......they don't have the best reputation. I succeeded in humiliating my supervisor and making her feel uncomfortable in front of the boss. And hopefully the cow now realizes that not every Asian female that she encounters in the future is going to be the stereotypical meek and passive employee.....that people will stand up against her bullcrap! And while I don't like to wish bad for others, I do believe in the power of what goes around comes around. And sooner or later, Allah's gonna get her for all the people that she's hurt!
In answer to your question....I believe that even in personal relationships (toxic relative/friend) you can only be the "tolerant/bigger person" for so long. Eventually you have to put that foul booger/fart in his or her place......otherwise they think that they will always be able to easily get away with their bull crap since nobody is standing up to them. By standing up....they'll hopefully think twice about opening their offensive mouth again!
yes, that is true on many planes, redvelvet. some poeople are so rotten, they dont realize that they actually stink emotionally.
and the mannerisms of less educated people, their level of thinking and arrogant peoples' elitest mindsets, get the better of their good sides, if they have any left.
giving a dose of own medicine does work for many, but then it may not for others.
best thing to do, in such peoples' cases, is say what you have to say, once and clearly and then not waste time with them, to correct them on their immaturity.
Dush,
At first, maybe even a few times, I'll stay quiet. BUT, then I get angry enough to say something to the person. I dealt with a *ty superior at work who once made a disrespectful tactless remark about Asians. She also made my life miserable. I tolerated her for a few times, then I gave her the cold shoulder and even responded with sarcastic remarks to some of her comments. That cow was so transparent with her malicious agenda. It got to the point, where I felt that I had to teach her a lesson. I refused to be treated like that, so I reported her to the Union and arranged for a meeting with the boss, the union leader, myself, and the toxic supervisor. And during that meeting, I let my boss know about all the * that she's pulled. She sat there quiet, and uncomfortable, her lips pursed in a constipated line.
I may not have gained much out of the situation, but I discovered a new personal strength. My union leader, was very disgusted with my superior and the boss.......they don't have the best reputation. I succeeded in humiliating my supervisor and making her feel uncomfortable in front of the boss. And hopefully the cow now realizes that not every Asian female that she encounters in the future is going to be the stereotypical meek and passive employee.....that people will stand up against her bullcrap! And while I don't like to wish bad for others, I do believe in the power of what goes around comes around. And sooner or later, Allah's gonna get her for all the people that she's hurt!
In answer to your question....I believe that even in personal relationships (toxic relative/friend) you can only be the "tolerant/bigger person" for so long. Eventually you have to put that foul booger/fart in his or her place......otherwise they think that they will always be able to easily get away with their bull crap since nobody is standing up to them. By standing up....they'll hopefully think twice about opening their offensive mouth again!
yes, that is true on many planes, redvelvet. some poeople are so rotten, they dont realize that they actually stink emotionally.
and the mannerisms of less educated people, their level of thinking and arrogant peoples' elitest mindsets, get the better of their good sides, if they have any left.
giving a dose of own medicine does work for many, but then it may not for others. best thing to do, in such peoples' cases, is say what you have to say, once and clearly and then not waste time with them, to correct them on their immaturity.
i'm immune to my own medicine.
the hurting of someone's feelings is the worst thing that anyone ever does, especially when it is not deserved by someone, who becomes the target of mocking and hurtful comments.
when people act racist and sexist - ignorant and distasteful, do you correct thme right away sternly and in a confrontational manner or do you keep quiet?
if you stay quiet or something along the line of staying quiet, how do you intend to get the message across that the behaviors were and are unaccepted and abhorable?
I am not the one who will get her second cheek to hit me again ,and I am not gonna hit back but I am gonna defend myself by controlling other person's hand.
the hurting of someone's feelings is the worst thing that anyone ever does, especially when it is not deserved by someone, who becomes the target of mocking and hurtful comments.
when people act racist and sexist - ignorant and distasteful, do you correct thme right away sternly and in a confrontational manner or do you keep quiet?
if you stay quiet or something along the line of staying quiet, how do you intend to get the message across that the behaviors were and are unaccepted and abhorable?
when somsone feelings are hurt because of the actions of someone, it depends on how important or needed it is to confront them. In some cases it is best to just walk away. There are enough sources of stress in our lives, why give people the pleasue of knowing they got to you.
I believe in badshah ja raha hai kuttay bhonk rahay hain approach, let the dogs bark, that is what they do. them barking at the king does not make them king, however the king barking back will make him look silly if you know what I mean.
**or agar kutty bhonkna chor ker kattna shuru ker dain tu Badshah salmat kiya kerin:aq:
I just imagine badshah & kutty Sir badhsha car main hona chahiy:cb:
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