What if the man leaves his family/ country and goes to live the the area, city of his wife, does it make him a ‘Ghar Dhamad’ ? If both financially and economically living on their own?
Even if, what do pakistani people have against a Ghar Dhamad, its like someone can’t find a reason to insult someone, so lets insult his decisions, that he made for himself.
My question, is a Ghar Dhamad really seen with such mockery in Pakistan, what is the real defination of a Ghar Dhamad, is it someone who lives with his susraal, wifes home in the same home or is it someone who doesnt live with his own family?
Saadia baji, ghar damaad is someone who shifts to his wife's family home after marriage and lives with them, often times father in law sets up business etc for him too
ppl always need a chance to make fun of things...to be honest yes ghar daamaad concept is made fun of in pak...but sometimes it is the best option for a person to be a ghar damaad...like if an old couple has only daughters...and they are old and weak...and their daughter's husband does have other brothers who can take care of their parents...it is prolly better if they (girl n husband) live with the girls parents...as they do need someone to stay with them in their old age...
ppl can say whatever they want but at no cost shud the girl leave her parents alone
anyways, who cares what ppl have to say...just dont let it get to u and dont give them any lift when they say such things... :) soon they'll know their comments are not welcome. some dheet types will prolly continue. with such, i suggest dont socialise with them.
I might be the only one on GS to have a serious issue with the whole ‘ghar damaad’ situation. If girl’s parents don’t have a son and they’re dependent then I’d support a man’s decision of living with his in-laws. Not that I’m asked for permissions :o Else they should get your own.
I’ve seen ghar damad making their own money and all still they get on my nerves so easily. Like this one person I know, he was married to a Danish Pakistani and moved up to Dk. Basically an engineer from Pak, since the official office language is Danish he obviously had to learn the language, and Danish is not the easiest thing to learn, our accent is horrible. Phir he had to do some other courses to get into the Danish system, which is fine. His in-laws paid for all this while he was living with them. But now that he has a job and they bought them a furnished apartment, he’s still there, like he spend his days there, eats etc at their place and goes back to sleep at his own place. Which is fine too, I’m not paying so no worries. What disgusts me is his attitude. After more than 10 years he still doesn’t know his own place in the house. He blows up kids fights and other normal discussions in a house hold etc without thinking about guests or his in-laws social status. They’re constantly arguing and trying to out do each other. He makes me sick with his personality.
This is the only ‘successful’ ghar damad story I know as they’ve lived together for about ten years. All the others I’ve seen moved within a few years.
Oh god..what would I give to be a ghar damad. I want to be pampered and called “damadji”..etc. But kismet hi aisi Phooti hui hai kay woh loag hur doh weekend per yahin pay aajatey hain…ab naya ghar bhi khareeda hai Thora door…aisa na ho kay yeh loag ab sleepover kay liye aajaein..
A son-in-law moving in is as bad as a daughter-in-law living in the sasuraal. But living in the same country as the in-laws doesn't make anyone gharjamai or gharbahu. You gotta live under the same roof.
People who mock damad's living with girl's parents are selfish and ignorant. My phopho has 2 daughters. the youngest one was married first. trust me her husband is a blessing for our family. He does everything like a son would do at his parents home. There are all old people living in my phopho's house and my phopho literally calls him her son. People might call him ghar damad and make fun of him or whatever...but we all respect him and honor him like our bro/son and not as damad. People who mock at other obviously have'nt gone through those circumstances and therefore they have no idea what it means.
Ashtray, are you related to grateful dead ? Because I have faint memories of MehnazQ kicking his butt in a certain thread related to moving in with the in-laws.
If both financially and economically living on their own?
too much damn bull crap!!