ok i will introduce myself first properly,i live in germany.i have been here for more then five years.i dont know the language much and in fact it was very very lonely in the beginning but now i have made quite a few friends and it is all going good.language is still a problem but i am learning mainly to get my german passport.other wise i a have been quite independant my self.
now my husband has been offered a good job in england.it is a good idea for us or rather dream job as there is a huge pakistani community there as well as good english schools plus no language barrier for me.i can even go for a job.BUT i am a bit sad.i like it here.i have my routine set.i have after a very long time made some friends etc etc
some of u live in england.how is it there.is social life good.how is the living standard.i have been there and germany is far advanced as far as living strd is concerned.but any ways i hate change,i hate change.what do u guys suggest?i m just a bit depressed.
Hi, Well I have been born and brought up in england. And I do like it a lot (I am biased what can i say?!)
Hmm I don't adapt to change as well, I moan and get depressed. But after a while, it becomes second nature and I become used to it. I think you should see this as an opportunity to keep all the friends you have. Always keep in touch and hold them dear. And at the same time - see this as one big adventure. A chance to make new friends, as you have said the language is not a problem.
A chance for new horizons, new friends, new hopes and new dreams.
Take it as a opportunity to make a new routine. Life is one big adventure and its amazing you get a chance to see many parts of the world.
If you see it as a positive rather then negative step - perhaps you might feel lighter and the change will be less pressured for you. You are going with your spouse - so you won't be alone. And I am sure you will make many friends.
I've only ever lived in the UK, so cannot do a comparision to Germany however here are my plus points for living in the UK:
diverse culture-racism does exist but it is in the minority group-I'm not sure how it is in Germany?
We have many Asian communities:Birmingham, Bradford, Manchester, London....all over the place so it is possible to make friends however you will be expected to make some effort-we Brits don't just form friendships we like a relationship that has both give and take in it.
There are some excellent schools in the UK-and some even superior ones that are private run. For those looking for a 'deen' based education we have those facilities too. Check the Ofsted website for realistic look at schools via their inspection reports.
What do you mean by living standards? We are no longer living in mud huts and most of us have broadband-is that what you are referring to? The only person I am aware of who has 'hired help' is the bigwig herself The Queen.
If you don't want to move then don't-don't take this personally but when someone doesn't want to make a move and they do they often see all the negativities in that country and then start to imagine problems that simply do not exist.
ok i live in frankfurt.when i say standards,i meant just the general way.things are much more organised(well what else do you expect from germans)etc etc.cleanliness also.i have been to uk and i know what am i comparing too.how do you meet desi out there.i mean,i am sure you cant make friends by saying hello to people going on roads,right?are there communities or clubs or websites?any help will be really appreciated;)
^ Standards of living are subjective…I’ve been to Berlin and all I can say is that I was glad when I came back to England. I am biased though
There’s a large Pakistani community in England, you won’t feel as alienated as you initially felt when you moved to Germany. This depends on where you move to though…do you know where you’d move to in England?
I know change can be scary but this might actually be an enjoyable experience for you. It’ll open up more windows like getting a job etc. Hope it goes well!
i would say that if you managed to make friends in germany, you will be able to do so here,especially as there are so many desis here lol. best way to go about making friends would be to,once you're settled and stuff, check out whats happening at your local community centre,your local masjid maybe,and try to do some voluntary work, always a surefire way of meeting new people.
also, i too really dont like change,but try and see it as something positive, as an experience to learn from,also,change can stop life from being boring you know :) i hope you'll be happy here.
ok i live in frankfurt.when i say standards,i meant just the general way.things are much more organised(well what else do you expect from germans)etc etc.cleanliness also.i have been to uk and i know what am i comparing too.how do you meet desi out there.i mean,i am sure you cant make friends by saying hello to people going on roads,right?are there communities or clubs or websites?any help will be really appreciated;)
Organisation of whom? General folk or the government?(by the way I have no expectations off the Germans, the only thing we share with them is the fact we're all made of DNA-apart from that I cannot see any similarities between us and them).
You meet desis by attending events, Islamic lectures, being nice to your neighbours and so on. I guess it would be the same principle in Germany.
Yup!