Anyone from a mixed background? Have you ever felt like you did not belong or was accepted by one group? I am half pakistani and half canadian. Many times, I’ve noticed that Pakistani people (or desis in general) dont feel Im Pakistani enough. Then, I have been told my some Canadians that due to my father being Pakistani, I am “not really Canadian” Lol. Its funny, because I always perceived my mixed backgroung as such a blessing.
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Are you talking about Nationality or Ethnicity . These are two different things . If you mother and father have the same ethnicity then yes you are Pakistani . But if your father is Pakistani and your mother is white , then you are mix . I am not sure which one you are talking about .
So are you not accepted by Canadians or Pakistaniz ?
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She is talking about the later... Nina, I am not how it feels but my nephew and few of my cousins are half desi and half goray. In group conversations we have to make sure we converse in English so everyone is comfortable. Though at time it is fun throwing in urdu words....
I understand the part of you not being considered Pakistani enough. Although both my parents are Pakistani, being born and raised in Canada leaves me feeling not Pakistani enough for friends and family that grew up in Pakistan.
It is unfortunate that you were told by "Canadians" that you are not Canadian enough. I feel so much pride to be Canadian and no one can ever tell me that I am not Canadian, since other than the Natives, we are all immigrants to this land. I find Canadians to be very friendly and have never been told that I'm not Canadian enough just due to my skin colour.
But I understand the part of not fitting in. I'm not old school enough to agree with some of the really traditional values of Pakistani culture, and on the other hand, although I am proud to be Canadian, I don't completely fit into aspects of the local culture here (the drinking, partying etc.)
Are you talking about Nationality or Ethnicity . These are two different things . If you mother and father have the same ethnicity then yes you are Pakistani . But if your father is Pakistani and your mother is white , then you are mix . I am not sure which one you are talking about .
So are you not accepted by Canadians or Pakistaniz ?
I am mixed: mom is white, dad is Pakistani.
I have had issues with both Pakistanis n Canadians.
I understand the part of you not being considered Pakistani enough. Although both my parents are Pakistani, being born and raised in Canada leaves me feeling not Pakistani enough for friends and family that grew up in Pakistan.
It is unfortunate that you were told by "Canadians" that you are not Canadian enough. I feel so much pride to be Canadian and no one can ever tell me that I am not Canadian, since other than the Natives, we are all immigrants to this land. I find Canadians to be very friendly and have never been told that I'm not Canadian enough just due to my skin colour.
But I understand the part of not fitting in. I'm not old school enough to agree with some of the really traditional values of Pakistani culture, and on the other hand, although I am proud to be Canadian, I don't completely fit into aspects of the local culture here (the drinking, partying etc.)
Dont get me wrong, I am very proud to be Canadian too. And same here, I find everyone to be really friendly and have friends from many different backgrounds. But its just something noticed after this comment was thrown at me a few time. Example: "So were are you from? ME:"Here".."No, but where are you really from?? ME:"I was born here. My mom is Canadian n my dad is Pakistani"...."oh, ok so your not really Canadian" lol
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Im mixed race, I only recieved problems when i was younger. Now im older i choose my friends wisely and ignore the family members that are too rude and ignorant and uneducated.
I love being mixed race i've always felt very accepted by pakistani people infact they show me too much love tbh.
But you do get the odd ignorant person.
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Ninaaa mannn ... u haven't yet met the cool paki people ... trust meee ... i had a mix frnd in uni and we had way too much fun ... trust me don't bother yourself with the people who don't wanna make you a part of them .. if you ask me you can have the best of both cultures ... so don't worry about the losers say otherwise ... and lissen to me ... cuz obviously i'm always right
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Congrats! Take it as a badge of pride. All normal sane people have issues with the general desi community abroad. You are on your way to being a normal individuals.
And for the Canadians. Screw them, they don't even play proper hockey. Who the hell plays hockey on ice? :D
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CM c'mon man ... i mean c'monnnnnn u can say bad stuff about canadian but hockey .. i mean seroiusly
I’m only a quarter.. living in London it’s not a big deal at all (some of my friends are really exotic gorgeous mixes like Egyptian/Malaysian :)) but if I go somewhere desi like Green Street or Southall it’s a bit of a nightmare paying by card cos they’ll ask about the name and look me up and down like I’ve nicked it lol, never had a problem when a white person has been on the till or in more high-end stores like Selfridges or Harrods.. older desis can be really abrupt and nosey, if I have to do something like pick up a parcel from a desi-run post-office where u show ID I’ll just send my dad down there so it’s less hassle.. English people aren’t smart enough to tell which ethnicity/religion/country I’m from from the name (even tho it’s a v.common muslim surname) so now and again they will say something like ‘are u eastern european’ or just come out with something really bizarre like greeting me ‘shalom’ 
but tbh it’s rare for them to make any comment at all..
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dude in canada and especially in GTA there are people from all across the world ... i don't think anyone can tell you apart until or unless u tell them that ur half white or somtehing
And we rock at hockey :)
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In the US...there are TONNNNNN of different mixed race kids. Im related to a few and its not an issue. Its just the company you keep. If you feel like the person isnt sincere, get rid of them. Dont hang out with them or give them much time.
Mixed kids are beautiful so be happy and let them be jealous.
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I have a mixed background. My father is from one part of lahore and my mother from another. Its so weird I tell ya.
My husband is of mixed background but you can't really tell. ;)
And we rock at hockey :)
we do rock at hockey
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wooohooo nina see i told u ... u don't need to worry about the losers and hang out with us cool kids
I understand the part of you not being considered Pakistani enough. Although both my parents are Pakistani, being born and raised in Canada leaves me feeling not Pakistani enough for friends and family that grew up in Pakistan.
It is unfortunate that you were told by "Canadians" that you are not Canadian enough. I feel so much pride to be Canadian and no one can ever tell me that I am not Canadian, since other than the Natives, we are all immigrants to this land. I find Canadians to be very friendly and have never been told that I'm not Canadian enough just due to my skin colour.
But I understand the part of not fitting in. I'm not old school enough to agree with some of the really traditional values of Pakistani culture, and on the other hand, although I am proud to be Canadian, I don't completely fit into aspects of the local culture here (the drinking, partying etc.)
tell me about it!..na ider ki na odher ki..sometimes its real downer..i feel like i dont fit in completely anywhere..some of my values are so paksitani that a lot of western people feel uncomfortable about them but then some of my thinking is so advanced and habits r so western that some pakistanis have given me tough time n iv gotten in trouble unknowingly and unassumingly on my part..:(