I dont understand how parents get away with everything they just coz they are parents. Why our society focus on parents rights & not on childrens right? There is so much abuse is all shapes & forms. Way too much mistreatment. The way our society treats them as if they are not humans but God. What do Islam says about such parents? What are their punishments?
It’s human nature. Our inner egos strive to protect us from
guilt. When we wrong a friend or a neighbor or a coworker or a spoise we are not thinking about that person’s rights....we are thinking about ourselves and our ego tries to justify our wrong actioms. It’s the same in the parent-child dynamic too. Ego kicks in and you think “But but but....i am the parent....I am older.....I know better....the kid was being annoying.....i have sacrificed so much that I’m entitled to bla vla bla.....My qurbaniyan and ehsanaat are far greatee compared to this transgression so not a big deal bla bla”..............we ise similar justifications with other relations and scenarios. I’m not justifying it. I’m not defensing it. I know it’s not right. But we’ve all done it. It’s just that we are not aware of our own contradictions and hypocrisies and transgressions but we are very keenly and acutely awarw of them in others. On top of there is sooo much truth to the saying that we become like our parents. The way parents respond has much to do with gow they were raised by their own parents.
Abuse is abuse, nobody should get away from it. At all.
Now what do Islam say about it, I dont know in full. But whats clear is the instruction that if we see them old we treat them with respect and not run our mouth. I'm guessing by old it means weak and helpless.
This is an excellent question. There is so much abuse going on (in our culture) because parents think they have a right to treat their children poorly. Definitely scholars should talk more about the rights of children from an islamic point of view.
I think it has to do with a tribal or hierarchical society where people feel entitled to respect because of position or blood rather than based on actions. In a tribal culture you are supposed to show obedience without question
'Dunya phirr laey, maa piyo di shafqat wakhri aey'
Our answers are hidden in us. Sometimes, they just need a little of our time, our respect and our obedience.
I have never seen a person who had happy parents and went on to be unsuccessful.
They truly are one of Allah's test.
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They get away with coz..our culture has pre-conceived notion that they be worshiped. I know it’s quiet blunt statement..but it is true. Our religion only has taught us to love and care, respect of our parents’ and being merciful to them.
With that said..there is no way it says..you have to take abuse from Parents’ or anyone. Most of the time…problem comes when they marry their sons and daughters off to someone. And then they think it’s their right to interfere into their Sons’ or Daughters’ marriages.
And not to mention..emotional dramays. Hence..mistreatment of their children.
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