i am someone who would blame herself before start pointing fingers on others. What was it wrong on my part that made the person behave this way and why didnt i stop it.
When a husband raises his voice or hand and wife does not stop him right there and then we all know what happens afterwards.
Its human nature as i mentioned earlier- we like to have a contorl but if we let other person that hey i am in control of my own life. They will stop because they know they will hear a lot of crap.
and imagine if they did that, they would be divorced and or beaten and kicked out of the house. so in order to stay with the hubby and not given the title of "talaaq yaafta" they have to force themselves into this. sighs Allah maaf karay
generally it takes a few generations to change a mindset, same will happen to this particular mindset too. I dunno if this problem in pakistan is among da rich or da poors. For those who are poor, it might be understandable to avoid having gals cuz they find it a burden. (Again, gals are considered a burden cuz of stupid cultures and practices) The poors are basically illiterate, they lack the support of society and sheer desperation may drive them to such acts. But for the wealthy and educated lots, its such a shame! I think it boils down to da values these ppl received as kids. Why do we place so much importance on wat other ppl wud say abt us? Thats the main problem of the paki society. i wonder if it wud help to have forums and talks educating these ppl on placing ur priorities right? Ppl really need to be enlightened abt their religion, they need to be aware!
i was recently watching this documentary on abused women in pakistan, women who were tortured, burnt etc by their husbands, inlaws. And this reporter had an interview with Musharaf abt wats being done to help these victims and guess wat Mr president replied? We dun have enuff funds for them. wat da [EMAIL="^$@#^%@%"]^$@#^%@%!
Without da right support, da ppl of pakistan are not heading anyplace brighter.
Yes I agree. Can you imagine the woman who keeps having baby girls? Her husband is threatening and abusing her. Her in-laws are shaming her. She feels scared, humiliated and punished by God. Everyone around her is making her feel inadequate. She wants to erase the mistake and start again. Are the doctors to blame as well? Yes they are. A culture that so strongly favors boys can’t handle a simple ultrasound. Used properly, sonograms can show a mother a healthy, beautiful baby. But all those Pakistani mothers want to see is if it has a little wee-wee.
Here in Ontario, you are no longer told the sex of the baby until after the time period in which you can have an abortion has passed. The backwardness of our community is spreading world-wide.
yes this is all extremely sad and disturbing
the saddest thing is that we claim to be followers of islam, if we were truly following the religion, none of this would be happening
