What misconceptions did you have about marriage and what experiences helped you rectify them?
Also, how did you learn what was the right way to see and be in a marriage?
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Sex. Major misconception. It occurs only for the first few days....then once every few years....damn you women!! Get a damn sexual libido!
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Learn how to turn us on.
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Is there a manual or a key or something? :D
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ohhhh that is such a generalization, there are women that have a high sexual libido and there are men that have absolutely no interest and are like robots
and read a book on how to turn us on…google is your friend
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that’s so cute…of course our place is side by side with a man 
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Ok, folks. I don't think either one of you is married.
Chalo, bhago, bachay baron k beech main nahin aatay.
(not that I am married :D)
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(not that I am married )
that must be one of ur other 501 nicks whos married hten
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that must be one of ur other 501 nicks whos married hten
Which is why I didn't even bother with this thread.
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that must be one of ur other 501 nicks whos married hten
eh?
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i think its not so funny and important to discuss sex around in any thread irrelevantly
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http://www.transmix.eu/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/man-vs-voman-cp_big.jpg
Yes there are women with a high libido but women don’t get how easily men get turned on. We can see a remotely sexy sight and be ready to go right then and there and women just aren’t like that.
As long as the lack of sex and the weight gain is a misconception, I can put up with the nagging. Someone confirm this please! 
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No matter how much you are around a couple, you cannot make assumptions about their marriage. A LOT is left unsaid or happens behind closed doors. Their public persona may be very different from their private.
Sometimes tensions occur between couples who seem very close because suddenly they go from the "It's Us against the world" mentality to "You vs. Me." This is not "bad." It just means that your lives are so intertwined now that conflict is bound to arise. But you also need to understand why you are suddenly feeling antagonistic.
No matter how well you think you know each other, there is a ton of deeper undiscovered stuff.
You need to DO stuff together to help your relationship grow.
The man always makes the first move and the woman determines whether or not anything will come of it.
There are a lot of things you look for in a spouse based upon what you've grown up with and seen in other married couples. Often you pick things because they are different from what you've seen. But often you also don't realize how much you're taking for granted -- how much you're assuming about the role of a spouse that perhaps the spouse you selected does not realize s/he needs to fulfill.
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No matter how much you are around a couple, you cannot make assumptions about their marriage. A LOT is left unsaid or happens behind closed doors. Their public persona may be very different from their private.
Sometimes tensions occur between couples who seem very close because suddenly they go from the "It's Us against the world" mentality to "You vs. Me." This is not "bad." It just means that your lives are so intertwined now that conflict is bound to arise. But you also need to understand why you are suddenly feeling antagonistic.
No matter how well you think you know each other, there is a ton of deeper undiscovered stuff.
You need to DO stuff together to help your relationship grow.
The man always makes the first move and the woman determines whether or not anything will come of it.
There are a lot of things you look for in a spouse based upon what you've grown up with and seen in other married couples. Often you pick things because they are different from what you've seen. But often you also don't realize how much you're taking for granted -- how much you're assuming about the role of a spouse that perhaps the spouse you selected does not realize s/he needs to fulfill.
Very well said Sahar, thumbs up. :)
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No matter how much you are around a couple, you cannot make assumptions about their marriage. A LOT is left unsaid or happens behind closed doors. Their public persona may be very different from their private.
Sometimes tensions occur between couples who seem very close because suddenly they go from the "It's Us against the world" mentality to "You vs. Me." This is not "bad." It just means that your lives are so intertwined now that conflict is bound to arise. But you also need to understand why you are suddenly feeling antagonistic.
No matter how well you think you know each other, there is a ton of deeper undiscovered stuff.
You need to DO stuff together to help your relationship grow.
The man always makes the first move and the woman determines whether or not anything will come of it.
There are a lot of things you look for in a spouse based upon what you've grown up with and seen in other married couples. Often you pick things because they are different from what you've seen. But often you also don't realize how much you're taking for granted -- how much you're assuming about the role of a spouse that perhaps the spouse you selected does not realize s/he needs to fulfill.
Thanks, Sarah02.
About point 3, by stuff do you mean do stuff to better your relationship like read books etc or go out and get involved in activities? Or both?
Also, can you elaborate 5th point? I get it in terms of initiating a relationship etc. but it seems like you're saying that continues throughout life.