what i mean is, lets say if your child goes to daycare or school, do u know the others parents there? do you converse with them?
I find that i want to, but dont get a chance to, or people dont quite approach me..
a lot of the parents are a lot older than i am.. there are SOME who are prob my age, and the only reason i know is cus i knew them outside of the daycare, but most others are much older… but even then, our kids are the same age, so I really wouldnt mind mingling with them..
I really ought to make more of an effort.. how do u though?
Munckins birthday is coming up in a months time Inshallah, so i’ll arrange for goodie bags and cake at the childcare.. i think that’ll help with the mingling.. i dunno?
I guess cus my parents were never really into it (cus of work and stuff) but I do recall in Taxila, my parents knew everyone.. and most of my school mates lived in the same colony and all their mothers were friends with my mother, cus my mother was friends with the principal… lol
We usually pick her up at odd times so dont get a chance. And everyoe just wants to get home at that time... i hate stopping people from getting home. Cus i'd hate that
You can initiate a emailing list or phone list. In grade schools some volunteer takes the initiative to collect this information from parents who want to share this info and it is used exactly for this purpose for inviting people at each others houses or just for gossiping.
My daughter is finally making 'friends' so it seems. So I thought it would be nice to know the parents as well
when i was like in nursery (back in pakistan) my mum and the mothers used to mingle so much.. go on picnics and watever.. but i guess they were stay-at-home mums back then, so it was different..
My daughter is finally making 'friends' so it seems. So I thought it would be nice to know the parents as well
when i was like in nursery (back in pakistan) my mum and the mothers used to mingle so much.. go on picnics and watever.. but i guess they were stay-at-home mums back then, so it was different..
Gossiping is good for maintaining sanity.
You would be surprised to find our shortly that things are not much different here either.
I like Mirch's idea...the emailing list would help make you break ice with parents who are probably looking for the same but dont know how to approach you either. :)
I mingle A LOT, infact ppl come to me and start conversating, mostly about kids stuff or the day care center generally. I have made some good friends and the good thing is that some live where we live so we see them quite often.
So far I have been invited to their homes/birthday parties .. one was even asking if we can do a pre christmas at her place, which I politaly declined.
I'm in the same boat as you. My son's b-day is next week & I want to send some treats for the kids but not sure how other parents, if they want their kids to have cake or not...etc. Also I want to make at least small talk with other parents, esp of 2 kids that my son really gets along with...but I feel awkward in just approaching them. Hmm I think I will discuss with the teacher tomorrow if its OK to bring in something to the nursery.
I'm usually the only FATHER who picks up their kid from day care or even in other situations, like at the grocery store, it's rare to see a father with his child without the mother around, freaking soo many people come up to me and say awwwwww are you babysitting, and I'm like fcuk you, I'm not baby sitting, I'm providing care for my child you douche, you women are always complaining about how fathers take an inactive role in their child's life but when you see one, you automatically assume that we're baby sitting or we're bumbling idiots when it comes to child care, it's such bakwaas.
Even the magazines like parenting magazine has the quote below "What mothers want" or "Mom's perspective", they don't even talk about the dads in those fukking magazines, if they do, it's the same bumbling idiot picture they paint usually accompanied by a picture of a dad with his child and the whole house a mess WTF...
lol aahmed.. haha... if only someone would sit up and take notice of dads eh.. :D but kudos ot u for being such a loving pa.. 'taalia'
i would just approach them sadzz... emailing is something i wouldnt do with strangers.. face to face contact is way better i think.. what do u have to lose.. just do it :)
I'm in the same boat as you. My son's b-day is next week & I want to send some treats for the kids but not sure how other parents, if they want their kids to have cake or not...etc. Also I want to make at least small talk with other parents, esp of 2 kids that my son really gets along with...but I feel awkward in just approaching them. Hmm I think I will discuss with the teacher tomorrow if its OK to bring in something to the nursery.
Talk to the teacher. They give you advice and ideas.
hehe aahmed... i wasnt complainign about my hubby one bit. He ALWAYS takes her to the grocery store or whereever he is going, so that i get some ME time.. and secretly i think he enjoys the attention of other people commenting on bubz... she's made so many friends at the grocery stuff and i think he loves that
Afro-sheen.. at our daycare, the parents do bring in cake (just cant be chocolate or have nuts) and they bring goodie bags for all the kids. So i will Inshallah be doing that for bubz too in Jan