How do you get your mind to be less negative?
I have a job where I simply see too much suffering. Before this, I wasn’t so negative in life, but over the past few years, it’s almost reeled out of control, to the point it’s affected everything.
Can someone provide some areas of the Quran to concentrate on. Does the Quran talk about this, are there ayahs to read that would help?
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the whole of Qur'aan if read with meaning and understanding will definitely provide inner peace in the reader's self. good luck, PCG...read with an open mind and try to concentrate.
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Whike examples of matters leading to negativity may enable people to refer parts of Quran you are looking for, but being related to medical profession, this verse from Surah e AlMaida may boost your morale.
Surat Al-Ma’idah [5:32] - The Noble Qur’an - ??? ???
whoever kills a soul unless for a soul or for corruption [done] in the land - it is as if he had slain mankind entirely. And whoever saves one - it is as if he had saved mankind entirely. And our messengers had certainly come to them with clear proofs.
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The cases I have difficulty with are the ones where my aggressive nature and training forces me to suggest to the patient to keep fighting his 100 ailments that are slowly killing him, thereby wasting millions of tax dollars on one guy to keep him alive in his crappy poor quality of state for another month vs. encouraging him to let go. I encourage him to let go, and go for a palliative approach, I feel like I’m killing him. I have not come to terms with this yet. And my current job, there is a push to make very sick patients palliative. It helps their mortality numbers. 
On the other hand, my training to keep people alive with goal of quantity of days over quality of days doesn’t help either - they just stay alive longer in a hospital with machines and lines and unable to live a real life.
It’s just watching people slowly die can really get to your morale. You end up feeling like - that’s gonna be me one day, my mom / my dad one day, the people I love one day, and I wont be able to stop that ship from going down. 
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Are you looking for Islam’s view on Mercy Killing?
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Oh lord, advising someone to take a palliative approach isn't mercy killing. Do you know what hospice is? Not sure if they have that concept in Pakistan.
Or maybe all of Pakistan is one big hospice unit, dunno.
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if you are talking about hospice, then it should not have created negativity. As far as wasting taxpayers money is concerned, many of us wish to see those of our dear ones who died (even for some moments). So life of such patients might be valuable to their dear ones.
Life is not privilege but its amaanat of God. There are many verses which says that for every person there is a fix time of death and God does not burden people beyond their strength. If everyone was happy / healthy, then who will remember God and thank Him for keeping you healthy. If you yourself are healthy and in a position to relieve someone from his / her suffering and motivate them to live, then its a naiki. sometimes, miracles do happen and who knows people who are otherwise tagged as 'gone', may survive for longer against medical prophecies.
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Make dhikr of Allah - la illaha ilAllaah o la illaha ilAllaah
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it is also an Islamic belief that since all of us commit sins, big or small, knowingly and/or unknowingly, the sufferings during ailments shed those sins like flowers from a tree. it's better to suffer a little in this world than suffer big time in hereafter.
one of my uncles was very sick because of his terminal cancer but he always smiled and always said 'alHamdolillah' for the pain he had as he knew that his sins are shed in this world.
it's a positive feeling for a terminally sick person.
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[2:185] 'God desires ease for you, and desires not hardship' (2:185);
[94:6] 'Truly with hardship comes ease' (94: 6);
[65:7] 'God will assuredly appoint, after difficulty; easiness' (65:7);
Suffering can befall us or it might be result of our own choices and actions. Suffering is a very powerful tool for learning (can even be a blessing in disguise), but our 'instinct' to avoid pain can make that process crazily complicated, as we invent twisted ways to avoid suffering that ultimately brings us do much more which at times makes things worse than better.
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Starting reciting astaghfar as much as you can and forgive everyone...above this...make good friend...company of good people especially those who can bring you closer to Allah, you will find them many around you inshaAllah..this will definitely help inshaAllah.
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**Your Lord has not taken leave of you, [O Muhammad], nor has He detested [you]. (3)
surah ad duha
Read the deep meaning of this ayat will help you inshaAllah..!!**
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I believe that system (modern business paradigm) as whole is flawed. I too sometimes suffer because of my traitor mindset. However, if i become slave of my boss as others do then no problem.
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Peace Sister PCG
I thought the palliative approach was designed to reduce the adverse symptoms of a disease without any curative affect, so how can that be bad? Or does it make you feel like you are telling them to not fight it any more? Just drift away and this will make their journey smooth ... ?
If there is no cure - then the next best thing is to make the ride to the other side a more comfortable one ...
Does it feel like when faced with a case, that you have given up the fight and then you tell them to give up too ???
Perhaps you need to read them and see what the patients themselves want ... If they want to fight - help them ... if they want to go discourage them, but if they resist then help them go smoothly ... the quality of life is not really for us to judge ... I have seen a no armed, no legged man, do tawaf around the ka'bah himself without assistance. He would bend his back and straighten it to move, leaning on one shoulder and then switching to the other after a while - the quality of his life for the onlooker was humbling but to him ... he was doing tawaf, that is all that mattered to him.
I'll post some verses that you could reflect on inshaAllah ...
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Hmm. Just think about Prophet Musa's mother. How reluctant, upset, confused she must have felt when she got the message from Allah to throw him into the sea. She probably was faced with lots of negativity but then she still continued as God told her to. Throwing a baby into the sea... Just imagine the emotions. Ultimately, she found peace when she was appointed as his nurse/caregiver. (Surah Qasas)