Mind Games

[PyariCgudia]

Pakistani females are often accused of playing mind games with their husbands and members of susraal. Often by other females, and not suprisingly, by these supposed targets of the mind games (i.e. the females of the susraal).

Are these usually baseless accusations you think? Or do you think that girls usually do play deliberate mind games with their husbands and in-laws…and would this be a form of a protective mechanism - that is, to protect herself from being used and abused and taken for granted?

I swear, every time I come home, I have to deal with my mother backbiting the other ladies in my father’s family, and you know what - they say the same things of my mother! And the one accusation always is “she plays SUCH mindgames!”

Man! Am I the only one who doesn’t play them? Or do I and I don’t even know it? (btw,doesn’t this smily look more Pareshaan than sad?)

[Miss_Mohabbat]

Im sure once your married, you too will understand the notion of playing games.

The married women in my family thrive on playing such games, i cant stand the backbiting. They suck up to one another to each others faces but behind their backs turn into satans offspring. I'v never felt the need to understand this as its waaay to complicated for my simple little mind.

I think the reasoning behind the playing of games is not a defence mechanism, i think its beaucse they can. Have you ever noticed how a married woman has much more respect in the household, as you as one gets married, thats it, she perfect and her opinon is aske don every single matter. No one can say jack to you once your married. I think some women use this to thier advantage and therefor play the games.

It's not just Pakistani women that do this though...some women from all cultures can be seen behaving this way.

[PyariCgudia]

because they can??

I don't think so. I think they put on 40 lbs after marriage because they can. I think they backbite either because they have nothing better to do or because its a power trip or its a defense mechanism (which ties in with the power trip).

[waleed]

kaki the conclusion is, as men have always claimed, woman kind plays mind games. so y worry about women blaming each other for playing mind games, thay all think they are innocent.

[Verizon]

Re: Mind Games

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*Originally posted by PyariCgudia: *
Pakistani females are often accused of playing mind games with their husbands and members of susraal. Often by other females, and not suprisingly, by these supposed targets of the mind games (i.e. the females of the susraal).

Are these usually baseless accusations you think? Or do you think that girls usually do play deliberate mind games with their husbands and in-laws...and would this be a form of a protective mechanism - that is, to protect herself from being used and abused and taken for granted?

I swear, every time I come home, I have to deal with my mother backbiting the other ladies in my father's family, and you know what - they say the same things of my mother! And the one accusation always is "she plays SUCH mindgames!"

*Man! Am I the only one who doesn't play them? Or do I and I don't even know it? :( (btw,doesn't this smily look more Pareshaan than sad?) *
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if it is Pareshaan than sad; it ain't a smiley.

[hiccup]

I rather like telepathic scrabble

[ghuLail]

mind games…i actually play at playing them…even thats enuff to make some sleepless for nights…u c its the basics that trip ppl over…najanay khail bhi rahi hai kay nahin khail rahi…

[Minerva]

^ghaag, mushaaq or khilariyoon ki khilari maloom hoteen hai aap ;)

[ghuLail]

mushaak abi hum kahan…basics hi pay koi phas jaiy, bus itni hi taak lagaai rehtai hain…shukriya waisay…

[Seedha_Saada]

They do play mind games but I cant understand their motives. If its for their self defence then these akal kee andhiyaan shud know that in actual terms they are destabilising their position.

[Code_Red]

Saas bahu ki table tennis main Shohar bechara ping pong hi banta hai

Bechara sarey din ka thakaa hoa ghar atey hoey Fruit le ata hai

amma : Beta zara merey paas bhi beth jaya karo do ghari

beta : Ji ammi

amma : atey hi seedha apney kamrey main chaley jatey ho kia zaida
thakawat ho jati hai saraa din

beta : Ji ammi, Kaam ju bohat hota hai, sarey din ki tension…

amma : haan beta, ek tum ho ju itni mehnat se kamatey ho our ek
tumhari bewi ju Ujarney main lagi ahi
beta: Ab kia hoa

amma : hona kia hai beta, kitni baar mian ne samjhaya hai ke, chotey bachoon ke kaprey ziada na khareda karo, bachey tezi se barey hotey hian tu kaprey chotey ho jatey hian. Abhi kal 10 nai jorey le aai hai. jabke 2,3 se bhi guzara ho jata hai Kitni baar samjhayah ke mujh se silwa leya karo. Main farigh hi hoti hoon sara din.

beta : ammi koi baat nahi, main kamata kis leye hoon bachoon ke leye hi naa

Amaa: Beta apni bewi ko samjhao, wo Nargis ke Nanad ke saath ziada na betha karey. wo bohat chalaak ourat hai, Apney susraal main tu koi izzat hai nahi, our maikey waley bhi Awaazar rehtey hain us se
Kal meelaad mian bethi patyaan parha rahi thi tumhari bewi ko…
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Bachoon ke kaprey ki waqai itna bara mas’la hai ???

Bewi our shohar ki kia batain hoi ???

Shohar ne apni bewi ko Nargis ki nanad se kaisay bachaya ???

Ye jan-ney ke leye daikheye hamara next episode.. :roman:

[Sara516]

I dont’ believe in mind games. i make up games in my mind, but I don’t act on them. I just do the best i can. live honestly, and if u got a problem with that then screw you

[Chameli420]

Ufff I am so tired of ppl trying to play these games with you. I never understand the mindset behind the games before things actually happen with me.

SO now I have stopped meeting with Pakistani females and stick to my old college friends who are just like me trying to live life without playing games.

I think only ppl with complexes have the need to play games cuz they dont have the courage to be bold.

[lussi]

a recently married paki female is a very dangerous specie. SHe will freakin do anything (mind games n all) to lure her husband from his family and towards herself.

[PyariCgudia]

ROTFL!

Code-Red, you should write drama serials - its sounds like a dialogue from a typical ARY drama.

Just increase the vocabulary level and make the mother-in-law look like a model, and you will get a GEO drama.

Seriously man. I spent the afternoon with my mother and my chaachi a few days ago - they usually don’t spend afternoons together and if they ever have, I’ve usually been the buffer zone. Khair, they’ve both recently gotten cell-phones, so they were having a cell-phone competition. One would ask the other if they had called their husband to let them know exactly where we were and what we were doing, and even if the other said “yes”, the former would still proceed to call HER husband up to make sure that he knew all the details as well.

As if they even care! The men just wanted to know when we were getting back home and whether they had to cook the chawal or were the ladies going to get back home in time to do it themselves.