millenials/ marriage/ Long term goals

[FreshBakedPi]

Re: millenniums/ marriage/ Long term goals

@NaanGuard

I’m in my dirty thirties now as well…After going through this marriage searching process…I’ve come to the conclusion that marriage is probably not for someone like me. I’m lazy, selfish, not ambitious, socially awkward and too much of a bitter asshole of a guy. Compound this with unrealistic expectations from a potential spouse and you got yourself the perfect recipe :). I’m not really a ‘people’ person, in that I don’t go out of my way to try and meet people. I can get along with most people and most people actually really like hanging around me… its just that my social anxiety is such that its not really my thing… I actively try to avoid big crowds, heck talking to someone new for marriage is really hard for me sometimes, but its something people have to do so I ‘man’ up. And I’m perfectly fine being alone, of course those urges of wanting to be with someone come…but I can calm those urges with a good exercising/weight lifting session or Ice cream :P. The internet also helps with loneliness in that you can talk to various people on the web…and I also have my nuclear family..so… I’m still not closing all avenues…but I have my expectations in check, thats for sure!

I’m going to start calling you the old curmudgeon!

OP… 90% of the time I don’t really worry about it (everyone has their bad days.) Like NaanGuard, I’m in my 30’s. I’ve focused on and built a career that I find very fulfilling. I’m proud of the things I’ve accomplished and while it would be nice to have someone to share it with, the need for that doesn’t drive me to get up in the morning. I’m completely self sufficient. I’ve filled my life with family, friends, a home, travel, volunteering… and an annoying dog lol. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, well… then that will have to be okay too. As with everything in life, it’s a roll of the dice.