millenials/ marriage/ Long term goals

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Re: millenniums/ marriage/ Long term goals

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I am not looking forward to getting married. I’m not a housewife and mother kind of gal, so I do not know how many mother-in-laws would want a bahu like me. I have strict requirements with who I would want to be with, so I do not expect to settle. Though, I am also not desperate and thrive by myself so I don’t see myself falling into a ~deep depression~ cause I am not married because I am self aware about myself and know my attitude towards marriage isn’t a cover for something else. Ironically I am also a people person, but I prefer to have friendships instead of cultivating a romantic relationship.

People have this doo doo ass idea about ~romanticizing long relationships~ and how it was ~so much better in the olden days~ and it is like. . . . .gurl whet? People do realize that marriages were a huge expectation put upon everyone, along with having kids. There are about millions of examples of people who should not have been married, with each other or at all. They may have had the ~desired nuclear family~ but they cultivated a toxic home environment. People only stayed together for the kids, and even the kids noticed their parents’ hostility towards each other. People stayed in ****ty, abusive marriages for the same reason and look how that turned out. So, we may not have the ~longevity~ our parents did, but once more and more people become self aware about themselves and how they would function in a marriage instead of rushing into one just because of parents/expectations/culture/loneliness, the outlook on marriage would be better.

But asking people to be self aware is too much to ask for.

Yeah don’t rush it, you’ll get better proposals once you hit the wall.