Miliband’s Kashmir remarks upset India.

Exactly my point. National pride aside, I don't really care who controls Kashmir. I care more about the rest of India whose development is being dragged down by the ramnifications of Kashmir.

However, I also know that if India accedes Kashmir today someone else will want independence tomorrow and this will never stop. So we cannot let Kashmir go.
The only option is to maintain status quo, and move on from here. That will work in both countries' interest.