how you try to keep a line between disliking the MIL but trying not to hate ur husband when he defends his mother ( which anyone would do for their mum) its difficult as its not his fault, he has done nothing bad and hes a better person than her. however he will defend her in his own way which is annoying esp when im right. so how do you keep ur relationship with hubby seperate from your feelings for mil. i have to say, i dnt hate her, she just damn rude at times and patronizing…ok another thing shes had an operation on her hands and her nervous system isnt up to scratch…so her medication is fairly strong and my hubby says shes gets mood swings cos of that. im not sure whether to believe that cos her mood is fine with her sisters. so thats bull. her moods ok with me too, its just maybe shes not as welcoming to me as she cudve been. or as nice as she cudve been or as erm motherly…sometimes she seems indifferent or just neutral to me…
when i was in pak, she only commented me on the clothes that she had given me, if she saw me in my baree clothes, she would say wow mashallah…
if she saw me wearing clothes my mum gave me, there would be silence…
these things are small yet hurtful…
and im new bride all that, so i had to be on best behaviour. i did wake up late few times, im assuming she may have not liked that…i didnt offer to massage her hand or legs wheres she had operations, as other ppl did, maybe i shudve…i dono…i did cook, however in sehri i didnt make the parathey my SIL did, i was told i didnt need to dont worry, but i guess she may take differenty too…over there they have nokhar chaakar and stuff, so i didnt have to do much to show that i was trying to gel with her. i did sit with her and talk. however one day she would be ok and chat with me…but before i was coming back she didnt say a word…she was silent for 2 days…so could be her medication or her…i doubt medic…she was quiet to my mum too…almost rude in silence…