There is some hope in the fact that your husband seems to be showing a little concern about your health. As draamebaaz as it sounds, I'd suggest playing up your stress and fatigue and general pregnancy symptoms. Be vocal about what you're experiencing. You mentioned you've lost weight - I'm sure that is of concern to your Ob/GYN now that you're pregnant. Next appointment, take your husband along and talk to your Dr about how stressed you are (without going into details so you don't embarrass hubby). Let her explain the impact of stress on you and the baby while he's there, and also ways to combat it. I'd suggest you also gently get him to participate more in the pregnancy - share info with him on how the baby is developing week by week, go shopping together for healthy foods, pick up baby furniture (when you reach that stage) etc. The more time he spends connecting with you, the less time he has to dwell on mommy dearest.
@nitrous: and that's why I called her and talked happily for a long time with her about her health and idher odher ki baatein, pretending like nothing's wrong. My husband is now really happy with me and so is MIL, but problem is I'm not because I am having to bend to make every one else happy. Husband has good traits too he looks after me and tries to make me happy....until MIL comes along and that's where the problems start. He worships the ground she walks on and goes out of his way to make her happy - all fine with me, except that she uses it to her advantage and it becomes a detriment to me! Hence wailing her sons name while sleeping or calling him up crying in the middle of the night - she knows he will get preshaan and that he blames it on me! I can live with her tricks as long as husband can see through them and support me when he needs to, but he just doesn't.
Please stop making it a pride issue. I never agree with my own mother and always have conflicts with her...but end of the day she is my mother. Same goes for a MIL...end of the day she is your mother. You need to deal with the fact that your husband won't change...and his love for his mother won't reduce either.