MIL gets sick - I get blamed! What can I do?

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Re: MIL gets sick - I get blamed! What can I do?

@Sasha21

Stop having long conversations with his mom. Only talk to her when he’s there. No need to bond with her on ur own time. When ur done asking about the weather, say Challain Mae unko daiti hoon phone yay baat karna chah rahay Haen, wait kar rahain Haen, oh may bathroom say aati hoon, oh Mae haandi Mae chamcha Chala k aati hoon etc etc and hand it to ur husband, let him do all the talking. Just refuse to let the conversation go anywhere there could be a conflict. If there’s any decision making conversation don’t try to do it on the spot, end it with Ji dekhtay Haen, discuss it with ur husband, and let him talk it out with them. It could go ur way or not, but at all costs avoid direct conflicts.
If he gives u lines like kabhi ammi Ko call kar liya Karo or he wants u to have long detailed conversations with her then tell him k ur always worried when ur talking to her that she might take something u said in the wrong way and u don’t want to bother her and make her tabiyat kharaab. U say this is ur way of trying to get on her good side and u dont want to give her any more grief then u already have. Waesay I think some of these mils pull the adult equivalent of when kids say mama maeray pait Mae dard hae maenay school nahi jaana. I hardly think devious mils ever really bother what their dils think about anything and just want to play it up for some attention to a useless conversation/minor conflict.

^THIS!!

Try to minimise your convos with her ant instead only speak when your hubbys present because atleast then he has NO reason to think your the root cause to every ache and pain that his mother experiences…Jeeze I hope my MIL is not like that