Re: mil and her ways
Nadz hate to break it to you.
You are not your MIL's daughter , nor is your MIL your Mother. Don't expect anything EVER.
It's been mentioned too many times, give it a rest, get on with your life. You have two daughters, you are THEIR mother, so take care of them. Before long (if not already) your daughter's will be aware of your and MIL's petty issues. Your daughter's will choose sides, and they will become bitter. God help you if your children turn against you.
Re: mil and her ways
Nadz, I think you want validation for your feelings, so here goes:
Yes, your MIL is annoying. It was nice of her to make you soup when you were unwell, but it could have been done without complaining and guilt-triping. Maybe I am wrong, but I have heard that you risk diminish the ajar/reward of your good deeds if you make a big show of them or use them to bring others down. It's unfortunate that your MIL doesn't realize this. But she's older and more set in her ways. So, for your own sanity you accept the kindness and push yourself to ignore the bad.
It is unfortunate that your MIL can be a dram queen at times. And yes, she does make a mountain out of a molehill sometimes. Yup, she also fusses and complains about little things that are not worth it. And she displays petty jealousies and engages in petty competitions. And she can sometimes be tactless in her speech.
So, there you go, Nadz. You got your validation. But try to think about whether you're copying some of the mistakes as your MIL.
Your MIL is not really upset at you. She's upset at her son because she feels he is not as attentive toward her as he with you; this os what appears to be the root of the problem. My guess is that she doesn't want to tell her son that feels ignored by him because it can appear like "begging" and maybe her pride prevents her from doing this and she wishes he'd just realize it on his own.
So, Nadz...instead of fuming over MIL...just gently (don't rant) tell your husband that he should enquire after his mother's health and maybe get her some otc medicines that might help her. That way, MIL will be happy that her son is paying attention to her as well and she'll get off your back. And your husband will be impressed with your concern and maturity, so it'll strengthen your marriage. And if MIL dares play the game where she tries to guilt your husband against you, he won't succumb to the brainwashing cuz in the back of his mind he'll remember that U were the one to suggest that he enquire after his mom's health in the first place. So, it's a win-win situation. We tend to fret and fume over a problem instead of using the energy to figure out a solution.
nadz, let the haters hate. I hear you my friend. I feel yout pain. I also have a similar mil. She is also nice to her servants and makes soup for me and feels hurt when her daughter is sick. How rude
Re: mil and her ways
^Lol....yeeeowwch, TLK bhai. That meethi churi is sharper than any saasu ma's.
