Sorry i just had to ask do you work? Or is it money he gives you or your parents and you save for travel.
You mil is never going to change or be maternal with you. Jusr accept that. Just be glad you get to see your parents every year and can go back and forth it is hard living joint but you just focus on yourself. Can you get a maid to help with your chores? Just nod your head and go along with whatever she says nothing you do kr say is going to be enough. In her eyes you will never be good enough for her son or as a dil. Focus on your girls. And to be fair why stress over her not doing something when shes sorta making the effort. My mil likes to faff about to make a point rest of the tiem i dont see her or even hear frlm her. And we live 15 mins away lol