Ok So maybe its not quite a “Mid Life Crisis” as I am under 30 yrs of age…BUT I feel like I need to do all sorts of crazy/whimsical things now. Like I really wanna go ride a Hot Air Balloon, maybe go sky diving with hubby. I can’t but I want to go hiking in NC, or white water rafting, all sorts of fun activities.
I dunno if its because im 8 months pregnant with my 1st baby, and I am nervous. Pray I have a healthy baby Inshallah and all goes well, and very excited about his arrival. But I do think of change sometimes, me and hubby like going out and we both like outdoorsy activities. I am thinking with stories I hear of how busy people get after baby that you have no time. Maybe that’s why I want to do everything now
Any new parents or those with experience had these feelings? How has your experience been? ANYONE?
i think its because you are pregnant and u want to do all the things that u didnt get to do before the baby is born. dont worry..inshAllah you will have the opportunity to all this once u get into a routine.
hey Afro-sheen! i think we're due around the same time... congrats b/w!!
and yes, I have wild ideas too.. but mine consist more of spending money.. as in flying around the world... getting a huge 4x4 and roaming around with bubs and me..
are u feeling the pressure of not being able to do all the things that you wanted to do before getting pregnant? are u feeling that u may now be restricted? i sometimes feel that way... but then i think, ive wanted a bubs for sooooo long (yes even before i was married) and finally the dream is coming true, Inshallah.... so all other not so important things can wait.. :)
Saddzz congrats to you as well. No alhumdullilah I am very excited about the baby and having him, but I guess what you said. Things will definitely change, I was just thinking of all the crazy stuff we did before pregnancy, and wanna do that right now, cuz obviously its going to be difficult to do these things with a baby, albeit its a totally different sort of wonderful life.
I do look forward to learning to be a parent :) Its the 1st baby in my family, so everyone is just counting down days for me.
Afro, I'm told that having a child is a 'rush' of its own and that once you have said baby you'll pretty much forget about all the other stuff. I beg to differ with whoever said that you can do all those fun things after you get into a routine, yeah I disagree. Once people have kids they tend to focus on kids and kid related activities until the child is in their teens.
So, I'm sorry to say it but chances are very good that you may never get to do the fun things like skydiving or bungee jumping etc. Once you have the kid, your mentality will very likely be "I can't do anything risky, what if something happens to me, who will take care of my child?". Also, by the time your children are old enough to be on their own, you might not be in the same mind frame as you are now, those risky things might not appeal to you then.
With all that said, there ARE people who do all kinds of fun things in their twilight years after kids are gone etc. Also there are people who do all kinds of crazy $hit even with young kids and even get their kids involved.
All the above is the main reason my wife and I are deferring having kids till she's done with her residency, and we are travelling extensively and doing fun things like SCUBA vacations and sailing vacations, cruises, etc. But that's just us. Inshallah God is the best planner, so we accept that.
Life is different after kids, but I know my cousins managed to still go vacationing in Hawaii, and other places with their babies. Its an adjustment but it works out. I actually do agree that its possible once you get into a routing. Yeah its not the same, but your not just stuck at home
Thanks Aahmed for your feedback. Well its not so much that, oh I never got to have fun before the baby. Alhumdulillah have been enjoying life very much with hubby, and doing fun stuff. Even before getting married I did a bit of travelling with friends during college and even after college, just straight up fun halal awaragardi. :) I guess right now I am like, hmm I guess I won't be doing that anymore, we won't just get up on a Saturday and decide ok today we're driving down to Deleware Water Gap on a leisurely Hike, or ooh let's go kayaking next weekend. I know a baby opens a whole new wonderful chapter in one's life. Just wondering if other's are feeling what i'm feeling, or rather felt during their experience
I don't think that is anything to do with the baby. I myself have found myself wanting to do new things like sky diving and other things which I never did when I was younger.
i havent been sky diving but i have been bungee jumping. And i normally go kayaking through out the summer with friends, and also some other outdoor activities. Sometimes we make plans at 11 pm one night to go away for the weekend, and it always works out to be fun. Just cant do normal stuff anymore, khair. Just my random thoughts.
I can not wait for December to come though, the weight gets difficult to carry after a while....im sure Sadzz agrees with that.
It's the preganancy hormones talking :-). Try to involve your baby in the activities you like to do. Small babies are fairly portable - you can still go away for the weekend to visit some tourist town, but you do have to plan accordingly. If you enjoy hiking, then once your baby is a few months old you can purchase a back-pack carrier and go for a hike. We like to camp, canoe, and basically spend time outdoors, and have always done so with our kids. I think that all of my children went camping by the time they were 9 months old, at least. It does take more planning, but it is definitely doable.
Aahmad- very wise approach - my husband and I had a similiar plan - however, Allah had a different plan for us :-). Now we look forward to our retirement years!
hehe, no i pretty much expected all those changes. Infact, I think even before the bubs arrives, your mindframe slowly starts to change. Although, mine took longer than my hubby.. he’s a bit more aware of things than me
I think, you can still do lots of fun things once you have the bubs.. maybe just not crazy wild stuff but certainly fun things that involve the three of u (or more if u have more than one kiddy)..
I dont plan on going totally nuts.. but i would love to be holidaying with hubby afterwards… Inshallah that’ll happen
Afro, i totally understand though!!! another 2.5 agonising months to get thru.. actually pregnancy hasnt been too bad at all… its just the waiting thats a killer… u just wanna meet that gorgeous creation inside of u… aaah im always day dreaming about her… la la la
