okay I dunno maybe shouldnt be asking this but dunno who else to ask or where else to go
what different methods of hair removal do you use…my hubby has indicated k unhe body pe kahin bhi baal ache nahin lagte means full body hair removal … i have never done my stomach or back …i have done sensitive areas half legs and arms …and also face…any advice would be greatly appreciated
advice in terms of what methods to use oin what part etc
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Hi llxxll!
I personally wouldnt advise hair removal on hard to reach areas (like ur back) unless the situation is really bad..
For everything else, waxing is best in my opinion. Its the longest lasting (compared with shaving or creams) and you feel super clean afterwards, as if all the dead skin has also been removed.
I also have experience of laser hair removal. Its worked well for me (not ALL the hair is gone but its 80% less - and the remaining is all thin, alhumdullilah!). As it is ur hubby's request in the first place, perhaps he'd be willing to foot lasering bills? If so, definitley go for that!
Hope that helps.
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well i was thinking of having back and stomach pretty much everything waxed by someone at salon...not doing it myself
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but i dunno m scared since i never did it before and i'm scared of what the reprocussions might be
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Thank's llxxll coz even I had these questions running in my mind!
While my fiance has never indicated such a thing, it's me who wants to get rid of all the hair at my tummy and thighs...It doesn't look bad but I have a very fair complexion so it just spoils my overall look!
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waxing is the best....
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llxxll, there are no repurcussions as such of waxing... your hair wont grow back thicker as it does with shaving. If you've never waxed yourself before then definitley go to a salon, otherwise you may accidently burn yourself (as I did when I first started waxing!)
However, I would definitley recommend looking into laser treatment as a long term option..
Good luck!
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i heard laser is also temporary and ive been scared to try that because I also heard its not good for our skin color...it causes some discoloration or whatever
Here is an easy solution that involves ABSOLUTELY NO messy creams, no razor bumps, no ingrown hairs, no redness, no itchy allergic reactions to chemicals, and no pain! And the end result is a life with a surface as smooth and silky as a baby’s butt!
Sounds like a dream doesn’t it? Sounds like it’s too good to be true, right? Well…here’s what you do:
Indicate to your husband that you also don’t like hair anywhere on **HIS **body. Tell him that you think men look better if every square inch of their body is chickna like Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise. Have your husband go through a hair removal session himself…and his requirements for YOU will change **SO FAST!!! **
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^ On a more serious note, I use an epilator. It removes the hair from the roots and leaves your skin smoother for a longer time. It's similar to waxing.
Laser is also an alternative. I went to my dermatologist for acne.....and out of curiosity I asked her about laser hair removal as it was one of the services offered. And she said that Asian (especially desi) people tend to have more hair and require a greater number of sessions to permanently remove the hair. One of the benefits of laser therapy is that it will also get ride of any hyperpigmentation (darkening of skin) especially in the underarms and other areas that may have resulted from the chemicals of hair-removing creams.
There is also Vaniqa, which is a prescription cream that removes hair permanently.
Dove has created a deodorant that makes hair growth finer over time.
There is also pumice stone.......used to remove hair. The friction of the stone against your skin pulls the hair out.
Applying haldi, besan, lime juice, and yogurt mixture to your face and letting it dry before rubbing it off removes hair and gives the skin a glow.
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even if waxing in generally makes hair grow back less and finer, I would gbe very careful for areas like your back....most people have allergic reactions where they get lots of tiny ilttle bumps and especially on desi skin tones, those bumps become darker and eventually very apparent on your back. Unless you have thick coarse hair, your hubby needs to get over it because its very normal....women in media are often airbrushed giving men this false impression that women should have hairless bodies naturally
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Quite true.
I have seen models backstage who have hairy backs and even the legs aren't properly waxed but they look extremely chiikkan on ramp courtesy all the flashbulbs and camera tricks!
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Same problem here...I can't stand the hairs on my back or stomach and I don't think bleaching works well with Sanwali people. I'd love to get rid off them but I got no clue how, does electrolysis/lasering work on those body parts? Waxing on such areas scares me :S waxing legs and arms is fine but back and stomach :S:S:S??
Does this mean all the Bollywood actresses just look so hairless for all the lightning etc.? I mean they are Desi too shouldn’t they have the same problems as us concerning extreme hair growth…
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Sorry, RV, your dermo doesn't know what he/she is on about in regards to Laser. But 99% don't. Laser can only temporarily help with acne. It's a side effect that many women note when having it (Laser) done on the face, during treatments only. But the hair usually comes back too as Laser is not appropriate for the face. Laser Therapy to actually treat acne/hyperpigmentation is a totally different kind.
Waxing - don't do it on areas that are 'male pattern' hairy. Beard area, chest, tummy, back. As well as potentially messing up the skin, these are areas in which root removal can strengthen the follicle (and the hairs that grow start coming back coarse and darker and also keep growing (as opposed to before when they had a finite length before they fell out). No one is going to admit it publically but every time I talk about this, I get a few girls pm me saying "OMG this happened to me. I starting waxing/plucking and now I have loads of coarse chin/sideburn/upper lip hairs. What do I do?!"
Shaving - It doesn't not make the hair grow back thicker, this is a myth. However, it does appear thicker as when you shave you cut off the hair at it's thickest part. It keeps growing with this thick blunt end, so it looks thicker and feels thicker and stubbly.
e.g. If you go for electrolysis, the electrologist will ask what you did to your facial hair previously. Nothing or shaving = great. Waxing = need stronger settings as the follicle is stronger.
Epilating - works for some but is problematic. A lot of the time, it breaks off hairs rather than pulling them out completely. Lots of women end up with bumpy red skin. The biggest problem I have come across is horrible ingrown hairs. MUCH worse than what one would get from waxing. Any root removal distorts the hair from it's natural growth. Epilating does this in the worst possible way and for many women leads to legs/underarms full of ingrown's and even abscesses caused by them.
Take for example an eyebrow, one can have a hairy area but all the hair will be neat and growing in one direction. Start waxing/threading/plucking and you will notice the hair that returns doesn't look as neat as that initial hair that you never touched. It's growing funny and sticks out.
Laser - Works best on dark hair, light skin. Asian skin tones (even if one is fair) usually fall in to Fitzpatrick skin type IV or above. This means a different laser is required from types I-III. This laser has further limitations in that it really does need coarse darks hairs for effective treatment (the other laser types can go a bit further to reduce some finer hairs). One can get fantastic results anywhere where there is coarse hair; legs, underarms, bikini. However, like skinnylatte said, it will be a maximum 80-90% reduction as the finer hairs are not effected by the treatment.
I would definitely recommend it though, having done those areas myself. What is left can even be left unshaved as it's seriously just really fine hair that you can't see unless under strong light.
One does need, the right machine, at the right settings, with an experienced aesthetician and knowledge on when to go back for treatments (not the short periods they suggest) for optimal treatment. It is a permanent reduction.
Any decent clinic will inform you about "indcued" growth. This happens when you try and treat areas where the hair structures are too fine - face, upper arm/shoulders, chest etc etc. This is where the client ends up with greater and coarser hair growth. The clinics often tell them that 'oh we just need to do more treatments to remove that new hair too'. This is BS; if one has experienced induced growth, Laser is not appropriate in that area and is never going to permanently remove the hair. As it is becoming more common to have Laser hair removal, there are more and more reports everyday of this. From men who have had their backs/shoulders treated, as well as women and their faces.
All that and not even discussing burns or pigmentation that can be caused if they use the wrong Laser or settings.
Electrolysis - The only method that works for** permanent** destruction of follicles on any skin type and hair colour or structure. However, its so so so soooo important that one has a very experienced electrologist who knows how to treat you properly. This is the biggest hurdle with electrolysis - finding an electrologist let alone good one, is hard.
However, with most machine types, it is a slow process, so treating a large area like the torso would be out of the question unless you have lots of money and lots of time to spend on it. IF you can find a good electrologist who uses newer tech and the mirco/picoflash methods, then you can achieve much faster treatment and even large areas become do-able.
Electrolysis side-effects are 99% temporary. In some rare cases they (the electrologist) can screw up the skin, which is why it's vitally important to have done lots of research , to know what to expect from treatment and what 'normal' side effects are. If anything is out of the ordinary for no good reason, then run!
Mine has a long training history and diplomas in not only electrolysis for epilation but also for remedial skin treatment (removal of thread veins, millia etc), so she's really good in taking care of the skin as well as making sure I get good hair removal results.
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^^yaar isse toh lagta hai koi bhi method acha nahin hai
maybe i should just bleach my tummy and back and thread my face
wax my arms and legs and use hair removal cream on my privates
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^yes, that's right. it would be best to leave the hair and bleach it.
waxing is fine for the rest, probably for your 'privates' too. hair removal cream may be too harsh for the sensitive skin there and also can make the skin darker.
personally, for legs, underarms and bikini area, i would suggest Laser. in the long term you will save lots of time, money, hassle and will have nice clear skin, as even waxing will cause some level of ingrown hairs.
and i'm sorry to say it but only immature guys or those who get all their info about how women should look from TV/magazines, expect their wives to be completely hairless. if you see photos of models before the editing, you will see plenty of hair!
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ab unhe nahin pasand hain toh main kya kar sakti hun
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depends on your character.
if it were me, i'd do nothing. he's the one with the issue, so he has to get over it.
whatever you do/don't do, there are going to be many times in your married life when you can't maintain hair removal - not enough time, other more important things to deal with, just can't be bothered. spouses just have to get over their little niggles, if they can't, neither is going to be very happy or content.
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you are right…the amount of hair removal he wants I feel like I will never be able to maintain that…privates and underarms toh islamically bhi karne chaahiye…but with my legs i have rarely if ever removed hairs from my legs and same with my arms…as for my tummy chest shoulders and back I have never ever removed hairs from there…m just really depressed because i think it is an unrealistic expectation but I feel like if I dont fulfill it i wont be attractive to him 