Now wife is giving birth and raising family. Dude has his status “single/looking” at face book.
I know many of my friends like that. There wives are pretty educated. Not that they don’t know how you use computers.
Its like they both mind their own business.
I just was finished getting mad at them when I noticed my OWN oldest brother put his university sweet hearts pictures up on his FB. The girl he use to “ghomna phirna” in university.
SIL also has FB account.
I don’t know man, its like pakistani wives are like allah mian ki cows… having said that.
I wan’t such a wife too
well as long as the spouse knows what the other is up to, what's the big deal?
though one of my friends has her wedding picture up but still has her status as single.....some ppl just have their reasons (or are too lazy to change :p)
that is just weird. all the people I know updated their status on facebook as soon as they got engaged, let alone married. and putting up your uni sweetheart’s picture on facebook and the wife being okay with it, I don’t understand how that’s even possible, she probably doesn’t know who she is or never checks his profile. it also sends out the wrong message to everyone on his friends list and probably the uni sweetheart too if she’s in that list.
Must be some new sort of liberal new species of wives, otherwise it is impossible that wives are not getting jealous that husband put his sweathearts’ pics on FB.
I remember how we made fun of my SIL early in the marriage when she thought something was wrong since a Suzy (married chinese) female boss would call at home when there was a critical system crash at work!
I always thought how would a wife feel if I never changed my status on facebook? I mean as long as I am not cheating then she doesn’t have a cause to
oh boy, this was something i was just about to post about. i was talking to my cousin from Pakistan earlier and she was telling me that it's in men's 'fitrat' to flirt around with other girls, and we girls shouldn't let it bother us because at the end of the day they are still married to us not the girls they flirt with. this is the exact same thing my honay wali sil had told me and she is also from paki-land. soooooo, i was wondering whether most girls in pakistan think like that? because frankly speaking, i am not even ok with my fiance being too friendly with his female cousins, let alone putting up pics of another girl on fb ...
You know, it's funny how people say it's OK and all that...if the spouse doesn't have a problem so what...I dunno...it's one thing having your friends who are of the opposite sex on the account, and another thing that you pretend that you're still single and allow yourself to have some fun that you think is harmless. No wonder so many couples just don't have any ethics in their relationships anymore....everything is "oh it's just harmless fun so what" attitude. What next? Casual meetings, then casual phonecalls, then hiding, then other stuff. What happened to honor in marriage?
Sorry monk, I know he's your brother but really he's a jackass. Doesn't he have friends (real life) on his list that know he's already married? And find it strange he's putting this other girls pics up. It's like he is publically humiliating his wife, really you should slap him silly.
You know, it's funny how people say it's OK and all that...if the spouse doesn't have a problem so what...I dunno...it's one thing having your friends who are of the opposite sex on the account, and another thing that you pretend that you're still single and allow yourself to have some fun that you think is harmless. No wonder so many couples just don't have any ethics in their relationships anymore....everything is "oh it's just harmless fun so what" attitude. What next? Casual meetings, then casual phonecalls, then hiding, then other stuff. What happened to honor in marriage?
That’s because** some** retards think its okay for guys to act like dogs and women HAVE to put up with that crap…it all comes down to the thinking that an unmarried female is the poison on society and she must do everything possible to get/keep a man, even if it means putting up with disrespectful/abusive behavior.
Isn’t that honor, when the spouses know what the other is up to (including knowing whose who on their spouse’s friend list on facebook/in the real world)?
Chances are, if the spouses know, its less likely to escalate to casual meetings/phone calls/hiding stuff. Whcih begs the question…if spouses know, then is it really unethical or wrong? Every couple has their own dynamic and what works for them may not work for others nad vice versa.
A text/phone call/conversation here and there isn’t harmful provided that it’s not a habit and consistent.
It does make me wonder if his wife is like that as well, in an open marriage of sorts.
At least in the states, it is even in that regard as far as genders go.
It makes me remember of a story in a train here where this woman was making plans with her boyfriend and then later her husband called and she was all hi honey, we have to drop off the kids there and there blah blah blah and I LOVE YOU.
