Men, Women and Allah

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OUR LORD, GIVE US COOLNESS OF EYES IN OUR WIVES AND OUR OFFSPRING, (Al Furqan 74)

  1. CREATION OF HUMAN BEING
    Mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from a single soul, and from it created its mate, and from them (two) spread abroad many men and women; and fear God, in whose name you demand one another, and (fear) blood relations; surely God watches over you. (Al Nisa1)

And God created you of dust, and then of a sperm-drop, then He made you pairs. And no female bears nor lays down, but it is in His knowledge. And none, who is given a long life, lives long, nor anything is diminished in his life, but it is in a Book; surely that is easy for God. (Al Fatir 11)
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  1. MUSLIM MEN & MUSLIM WOMEN
    And the Believers, men and women, are friends of one another; they bid the desirable, forbid the disgusting, establish the Prayer, pay the Due-alms, and obey God and His Messenger; upon them God will have mercy; God is Mighty, Wise. (Al Taubah 71)

God promises the Believers, men and women, gardens underneath which rivers flow, to dwell therein forever, and gracious houses in the gardens of eternity; and God’s pleasure shall be the greatest; that is the mighty triumph. (Al Taubah 72)
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  1. MUNAFIQ MEN AND WOMEN
    The hypocrites, men and women, are as one another; they bid the disgusting and forbid the desirable, and keep their hands shut; they have forgotten God, and He has forgotten them; surely the hypocrites are the transgressors. (Al Taubah 67)

God promises the hypocrites, men and women, and the unbelievers the Fire of Hell, to dwell therein forever; it will suffice them; and God has cursed them; and for them shall be a lasting punishment (Al Taubah 68)
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  1. WHEN GOD DECREED A MATTER
    And it is not for any Believing man or a Believing woman, when God and His Messenger have decreed a matter, to have the choice in the matter concerning them; and whoso disobeys God and His Messenger has openly gone astray. (AlAhzab 36)
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  2. GOD DOESN’T WASTE PEOPLES’ WORK
    Then their Lord answered them, `I do not waste the work of a worker among you, be it a male or a female; you are from one another. So those who emigrated, and were expelled from their homes, and were given hurt in My way and who fought and were killed, I will acquit them of their evils, and admit them to gardens underneath which rivers flow - a reward from God; and with God is the most handsome reward. (Al Imran 195)

And God has made for you wives out of yourselves, and has made, out of your wives, sons and grandsons for you. (Al-Nahl 72)

And do not covet that whereby God has exalted some of you above others; for men is a share of what they earn, and for women is a share of what they earn; and ask God of His bounty; God surely knows everything. (Al-Nisa 32)
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  1. SCOFF AT ANOTHER PEOPLE
    O Believers, let not a people scoff at another people, it may be they are better than they, nor let women (scoff) at other women, it may be they are better than they. And do not find fault with one another, nor call by nicknames. Giving bad names is transgression after belief. And those who do not repent, they are the wrong doers. (Al Hujurat 11)
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  2. IBLIS IS AN ENEMY OF ADAM
    And when We said to the angels, prostrate yourselves before Adam,' they prostrated themselves except Iblis; he refused. Then We said, O Adam, this is an enemy to thee and thy wife, so let him not expel you from the garden, for then thou shalt be in distress. (Taha 116-117)

Then the Devil whispered to him; he said, O Adam, shall I point thee to the Tree of Eternity and a Kingdom that shall not decay? So they ate of it, and their shameful parts were apparent to them, and they took to stitching on them the leaves of the garden. And Adam disobeyed his Lord and was perverse. Yet his Lord chose him, and turned to him and guided him. He said, get you both down from here together, as enemy to one another; and guidance will come to you from Me, then whoso follows My guidance will not go astray, nor will he be in distress. (Taha 120 -123)
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  1. ADORNNED FOR PEOPLE
    Adorned for men is the love of lusts _ women, sons, heaped-up heaps of gold and silver, branded horses, cattle and tillage; those are the goods of the present life; and with God is the handsome resort. Say, `shall I tell you better than that? For the god fearing shall be, with their Lord, gardens underneath which rivers flow, to dwell therein forever, and pure spouses and God’s pleasure; and God sees His servants (Al-Imran 14-15)
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  2. WHO IS SUCCEEDED:
    The Believers have succeeded, who are humble in their Prayer, and who turn aside from idle non-sense, and who are active at Alms-giving, and who guard their private parts, except from their wives or what their right hands own, for then they are not to be blamed. (Al mu’minun 1 - 6)
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  3. WEALTH AND CHILDREN ARE ONLY A TRIAL
    O Believers, among your wives and your children, some are enemies to you, so beware of them; yet if you pardon, and overlook, and forgive, then God is Forgiving, Merciful. Your wealth and your children are only a trial; and with God is a mighty wage. (A Taqhabun 14-15)
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  1. MEN HAVE HIGHER RANK THAN WOMEN And women have (rights) similar to what (obligations) are upon them, in the desirable way, but men have a rank above them; and God is Mighty, Wise. (Al-Baqarah_228)

Men have authority over women, for that God has exalted one over the other, and for that they expend of their wealth; so the righteous women are obedient and guard the unseen as God has guarded. And those whose rebellion you fear, admonish them and leave them alone in the beds, and beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; God is surely High, Great. (Al-Nisa_34)

And call to witness two witnesses out of your men; and if two men are not there, then one man and two women, such witnesses as you are pleased to have, so that if one of the two (women) errs, one of them reminds the other. (Al-Baqarah_282)

God charges you concerning your children: for the male the like of the portion of two females;(Al-Nisa_11)
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  1. EXAMPLE OF KAFIR’S & MUSLIM’S WIVES
    God gives an example for the unbelievers __ the wife of Noah and the wife of Lot; they were under two of our righteous servants, but they betrayed them, so they availed them nothing against God, and it was said, enter the Fire with those who enter. And God gives an example for the Believers __ the wife of Pharaoh; when she said,my Lord, build for me a house in Thy presence in Paradise, and save me from Pharaoh and his work, and save me from the wrong-doing people. (Al-Tahrim_10-11)
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  2. RIGHTEOUS WOMEN
    The righteous women are obedient (to husband) and guard the unseen as God has guarded. (Al-Nisa_34) And if a woman fears hostility or aversion in her husband, there is no fault in them (two), that they set things right between them; and right settlement is good; and souls are prone to avarice; and if you do good and be god fearing. (Al-Nisa_128)

And say to the Believing women that they cast down their eyes, guard their private parts, and not show their adornment, except what thereof is apparent, and let them draw their scarves over their bosoms; and let them not show their adornment, except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands' fathers, or their sons, or their husbands' sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or that their right hands own, or attendants out of men not having sexual need, or children who do not appreciate women's nudities; and let them not stamp their feet so that their hidden adornment becomes known; and turn to God all of you, O Believers, that you may prosper.(Al-Nur_31)

O Prophet, say to thy wives, thy daughters and the women of the Believers to draw their veils close to them; that is more likely that they will be known and not hurt; and God is Forgiving, Merciful.(A-Ahzab_59)
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  1. EXCHANGE A WIFE
    And if you desire to exchange a wife in place of another, and you have given to any of them a heap of gold, do not take anything of it; will you take it by calumny and a manifest sin? (Al-Nisa_20)
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  2. MORE THAN ONE WIVES
    And if you fear that you will not act justly towards the orphans, marry such women as seem pleasing to you, two, three, four; but if you fear that you will not be equitable, then only one, or what your right hands own; so it is likelier that you will not be partial. (Al-Nisa_3)
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  3. EQUITY BETWEEN THE WIVES
    And you will not be able to be equitable between the wives, how eager you may be; yet do not incline altogether, that you leave her as it were suspended; and if you set things right and be god fearing, then God is Forgiving, Merciful. (Al-Nisa_129)

O Believers, it is not lawful for you to inherit women against their will; and do not debar them (from marrying) so that you may go off with part of what you have given them, except that they commit a flagrant indecency; and consort with them desirably, for if you hate them, it is possible that you hate a thing and God has kept much good in it.( Al-Nisa_19)
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  1. CHRISTIAN AND JEWS WOMEN Today, the clean things are made lawful to you; and the food of those who were given the Book is lawful to you, and your food is lawful to them, and so are free women from among the Believing women and free women from among those who were given the Book before you, when you give them their dowries, taking them in wedlock, not taking them for lust, nor as lovers. (Al-Ma’idah_5)

And (forbidden to you are) married women, except what your right hands own; (Al-Nisa_24)
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  1. MUSLIMS’ WIVES IN PARADISE The god fearing shall be in a secure station, (paradise) amidst gardens and fountains, wearing silk and brocade, sitting face to face; so it will be; and we shall wed them to wide-eyed damsels. They, in security, shall call therein for every fruit. (Al-Dukhan: 51-55)

We have formed them (wives) perfect, and made them virgins, loving, of like age. (A-Waqi’ah_35-37)
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  1. ONLY ALLAH GIVES SON OR DAUGHTER
    To God belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth; He creates what He will; He gives to whom He will females, and He gives to whom He will males. Or He couples them both males and females. And He makes whom He will barren. He is Knowing and Powerful.( Al Shura 49-50)
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  2. ADOPTED RELATIVES ARE NOT LIKE REALS
    God has not made for any man two hearts in his body; and He has not made your wives, whom you declare to be your mothers, your mothers; and He has not made your adopted sons your sons; that is your saying, words of your mouths; but God speaks the truth, and He guides to the Way.(Al Ahzab 4)

When Zaid had accomplished formalities concerning her, We gave her in marriage to thee, so that there should be no blame on the Believers concerning the wives of their adopted sons, when they accomplish formalities concerning them; and God's command is ever done. (Al Ahzab 37)
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21.CAN NOT MARRY TWO SISTERS TOGETHER.
And do not marry such women as your fathers married, except what has already passed; it is surely indecent and hateful; and it is an evil way.

Forbidden to you are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your aunts paternal, your aunts maternal, brother's daughters, sister's daughters, your mothers that have given suck to you, your suckling sisters, your wives' mothers, your step- daughters who are in your care, being of your wives you have gone in to; but if you have not gone in to, it is no fault in you; and the spouses of your sons who are of your loins, and that you take to you two sisters together, except what has already passed; God is surely Forgiving, Merciful.

And (forbidden to you are) married women, except what your right hands own; so God prescribes for you; and all beyond that is lawful to you, if you seek, with your wealth, in marriage and not for lust. Then for the benefit you draw from them, give them their dowries as apportioned; and it is no fault in you in what you agree upon after the due apportion ate ; God is surely Knowing, Wise. (Al Nisa 22-24)
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  1. DO NOT MARRY WITH NONBELIEVERS
    And do not marry idolatresses, until they accept the faith; for a Believing slave-girl is better than an idolatress, how marvellous she may appear to you. And do not give in marriage to idolaters until they accept the faith, for a Believing slave is better than an idolater, how marvellous he may appear to you. Those call to the Fire, and God calls to Paradise and forgiveness, by His leave; and He makes clear His signs to the people that they may pay heed (Al Baqrah 221)
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  2. MEETING IN RAMADAN
    Lawful to you, on the night of fasting, is to go in to your wives; they are a garment for you and you are a garment for them; God knows that you have been betraying yourselves; so He has turned to you and pardoned you; now you may go in to them and seek what God has prescribed for you; and eat and drink until the white thread of the dawn shows clearly to you from the black thread; then complete the fast upto the night; but do not go in to them while you are cleaving in the mosques; those are God's bounds, so do not go near them; thus God makes clear His signs to men that they may become god fearing. (Al Baqarah 187)
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  3. REBELLION WIVES, BREACH AND SEPARATION
    And those (wives) whose rebellion you fear, admonish them and leave them alone in the beds, and beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; God is surely High, Great.( Nisa 34)
    And if you fear a breach between them (two), appoint an arbiter from his people and an arbiter from her people; if they (two) desire to reform, God will bring reconciliation between them; God is surely Knowing, Aware. ( Nisa 35)

For those who forswear their women is a wait of four months; then if they revert, God is Forgiving, Merciful. And if they resolve on divorce, God is Hearing, Knowing.( Al Baqarah 226-227)

And if they separate, God will make each self-sufficient out of His plenty; and God is All embracing, Wise. )Al Nisa 130)
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  1. THOSE WHO ACCUSES THEIR WIVES
    And those who accuse their wives but have no witnesses except themselves, then the testimony of one of them shall be to testify by God four times that he is surely of the truthful. And the fifth time, that the curse of God be upon him, if he should be of the liars. But it shall avert the punishment from her, if she testifies by God four times that he is of the liars. And the fifth time, that the wrath of God be upon her, if he should be of the truthful. ( Al Nur 6-9)
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  2. ACCUSING CHASTE WOMEN
    And those who accuse chaste women, then do not bring four witnesses, flog them with eighty stripes, and do not accept their testimony ever, for they are the transgressors. (Al Nur 4)

Those who accuse chaste, unaware, believing women are cursed in this world and Hereafter, and for them shall be a painful punishment. On the day when their tongues, their hands and their feet shall testify against them concerning that they were doing. That day, God will pay them in full their true recompense, and they will know that God is the Manifest Truth. (Al Nur 23-25)
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  1. DECLARING WIVES AS MOTHERS
    Those of you who declare their wives as their mothers, they are not their mothers; their mothers are only those who gave them birth; they surely utter disgusting words and falsehood; yet surely God is Pardoning, Forgiving. And those who declare their wives as their mothers, then retract from what they said, they shall set free a slave before they touch each other; by that you are admonished; and God is Aware of what you do. But he who does not find it, he shall fast for two successive months, before they touch each other; and he who is not able to do so, let him feed sixty needy persons; this is so that you have faith in God and His Messenger; and these are God's bounds; and for the unbelievers shall be a painful punishment. (Al Mujadalah 2-4)
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  2. DIVORCING A WOMAN
    O Prophet, when you people divorce women, divorce them for their period and count the period; and fear God, your Lord; do not expel them from their homes, nor should they go forth, except when they commit flagrant indecency. And those are God's bounds; and he who transgresses God's bounds, has done wrong to himself; thou dost not know that God after that may bring something new to the matter.

Then, when they have reached their term, retain them desirably or part with them desirably, and call in to witness two just men out of you, and perform the witnessing to God; thus is admonished he who believes in God and the Last Day. And whoso fears God, He will make for him a way out, ( Al Talaq 1-2)

Then if he divorces her (finally), she shall not be lawful to him afterwards till she marries a mate other than he; then if he also divorces her, it is no fault in the two that they return to each other, if they think that they will maintain God's bounds; and these are God's bounds which He makes clear to people who have knowledge. (Al Baqarah 230)
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  1. MARRIAGE OF DIVORCED WOMAN
    And when you divorce women and they have reached their term, do not debar them from marrying their mates, when they have agreed together in the desirable way; with that is admonished whoso out of you believes in God and the Last Day; that is purer and cleaner for you; and God knows and you do not know. (Al Baqarah 232)
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  2. WHEN HUSBAND DIES
    And those of you who die leaving wives, they shall wait by themselves for four months and ten (days); then when they have reached their term, there is no blame on you for what they may do with themselves in the desirable way; and God is aware of the things you do. (Al Baqarah 234)

And those of you who die leaving wives should make a testament for their wives, provision for a year without expulsion; then if they go forth, there is no blame on you in what they do with themselves in some desirable way; and God is Mighty, Wise.
And for the divorced women also, there shall be provision in the desirable way; it is an obligation on the God fearing.( Al Baqarah 240-241)

  1. SHARES OF MEN AND WOMEN For men is a share of what parents and kinsmen leave, and for women is a share of what parents and kinsmen leave, be it little or much, a share apportioned. (Al Nisa 7)

And for you a half of what your wives leave, if they have no child; but if they have a child, then for you a fourth of what they leave after any bequest they may have made or any debt.

And for them (wives) a fourth of what you leave, if you have no child; but if you have a child, then for them an eighth of what you leave, after any bequest you may have made or any debt. (Al Nisa 12)