Many people believe that women make better parents than men and that this is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies. Others claim that men are just as good as women at parenting.
Do you believe this to be true?
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I believe both mother and father are very important for a child and there is no comparison. I have seen cases where fathers are so much better parent than the mother and vice versa. It does not depend upon the gender I believe but one's willingness to make the child's life better , the focus towards the child and the love one has in his/her heart for the child.
And I don't believe on the theory that mothers are a better or good parent no matter what and I don't believe that every mother has janat underneath her feet (yea I don't believe that shoot me!) just by giving birth or by providing sperm you don't get such honorable statuses. It takes a lot and I mean a lot to be a parent.
Plus , if gender had played so much of role then we would not have required so many “jhoolay” (baby cot /crib) all over Pakistan which encourage parents to leave their children/newborns in that crib instead of killing them.
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More women are more likely to be better. Not every woman is or can be. Some men can make better fathers. But if we don't let men take the stage, they will never get enough opportunities to learn.
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both parents play an important role.
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I don't believe that every mother has janat underneath her feet (yea I don't believe that shoot me!) just by giving birth or by providing sperm you don't get such honorable statuses. It takes a lot and I mean a lot to be a parent.
Yes it takes a lot to be a parents but mothers have this high regard (cause they go through the pregnancy stage). I would like to share this here
"Once Hazrat Abdullah Bin Umar saw a Yemenite doing Tawaaf of Holy Kaaba with his mother on his back. Seeing Hazrat Abdullah he asked that had he not compensated for the rights of his mother? To which Hazrat Abdullah replied that it was not the compensation even for a single birth pain of his mother."
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I think it takes both the parents to bring up a kid successfully. Its a team work, you can't debate on it whether a father can do a good job or a mother, because if left alone due to some tragedy, both single father and single mother will do their best for their child no matter what it takes to do so as they have to prove them selves that they are better off alone...
I hope and pray that every child gets both the parents to raise him/her..
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blessed- it's your opinion and I respect that .
Being a mother myself I know about what pregnancy and child birth is all about but taking care of a baby and upbringing is much much more difficult and challenging. In my opinion any father or mother who abuse or abandon his/her child does not have any high regard.
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"Once Hazrat Abdullah Bin Umar saw a Yemenite doing Tawaaf of Holy Kaaba with his mother on his back. Seeing Hazrat Abdullah he asked that had he not compensated for the rights of his mother? To which Hazrat Abdullah replied that it was not the compensation even for a single birth pain of his mother."
I heard that a father's happiness is Allah's happiness, and a father's sadness and anger is Allah's anger...
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I heard that a father's happiness is Allah's happiness, and a father's sadness and anger is Allah's anger...
i havenot heard this but its must be true. tfs
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blessed- it's your opinion and I respect that .
Being a mother myself I know about what pregnancy and child birth is all about but taking care of a baby and upbringing is much much more difficult and challenging. In my opinion any father or mother who abuse or abandon his/her child does not have any high regard.
no darling all i am saying is that mothers do hold this "maa ke pairon talay jannat hai" title as they are the one who give birth since hazrat abdullah bin umar didnot know how that man's mother treated him, whether she was good or bad with him. all he knew was that she was his mother and that she went through the labour pain for her kid.
but i understand your point too. :)
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Moms are better parents, yet for some reason people disagree with the fact that there is no adverse affect on children when the mother is not around.
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Plus , if gender had played so much of role then we would not have required so many “jhoolay” (baby cot /crib) all over Pakistan which encourage parents to leave their children/newborns in that crib instead of killing them.
Agreed with all you said diamond. I didnt get what the above means...babies are not allowed or discouraged from sleeping with their parents?
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^ if you ever get a chance to come here you will see baby cribs fixed all over the city. You will find the on foot paths .....anywhere. They have been fixed so that people don't kill their unwanted babies and rather leave them in the crib and later they are adopted or taken into shelter.
There are many many babies who are unwanted because they are not so called legitimate , because they happen to be girl and many other reasons and people either throw them in garbage to be eaten alive by animals or kill them and throw them in garbage. My point was those babies don't come into this world on their own they have a mother and father too who leave them to die or kill them and I don't know what kind of mother / father or a human being u have to be to do that to your own child.
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Many people believe that women make better parents than men and that this is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies. Others claim that men are just as good as women at parenting.
Do you believe this to be true?
i think it takes both sides .Kids need attention from dads as much as they need from moms.
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both have equally important but DIFFERENT roles.
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IMO they're both important. Neither gender is the better parent by default. They both have separate but equally important roles.
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Man is like a truck and woman is like a family car. Now truck would keep kids as safe as family car (may be more?) but family car will keep kids more comfy eh?
ultimately, any of the two can carry kids to destination.
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Agreed with all you said diamond. I didnt get what the above means...babies are not allowed or discouraged from sleeping with their parents?
What she is talking about is something similar to safe-haven law we have here. You can leave your babies you don't want or can't take care of in these cradles.