Men shortage

[Paheli00]

Re: Men shortage

@SaeedinPakistan

And it’s the ladies who’re barely over 5ft themselves who have these kinda demands .

Because short women need to wear sky high heels so they don’t feel like midgets surrounded by tall people.

[Paheli00]

Re: Men shortage

@pak2015

There is no true shortage. The below applies primarily to the ristha process. I’m so envious of people who find their significant other during school or training. Some of this is tongue in cheek and exaggerated so no need to get offended.

Women want the >5’10" good looking, fit, intelligent men who dont have receding hairlines and aren’t balding, are settled professionals (doctors, lawyers, engineers, business, etc), who dont smoke or drink alcohol yet aren’t too conservative, are mature yet romantic laid back alpha males with a good sense of humor with sizzling chemistry who aren’t demanding or needy and never get mad or raise their voice but will love her faithfully and unconditionally so that she doesnt have to adjust too much after marriage and he will just adore her and put up with all her nakhrey and high maintenance, he wont ask her to sacrifice or compromise, and will let her continue to act like she was when she was single and allow her the freedom to do whatever she wishes to do, all while expecting him to sacrifice and live close to her parents after marriage. Along with everything above, the more money he makes the better. This virtually rules out >99% of desi men.

Men, despite their own numerous shortcomings, want the decent, shareef, innocent yet stunningly beautiful and light-skinned fit angel with no past who has a cute and playful yet nurturing personality, is a classy lady in public, she never nags and isnt too clingy but will put him on a pedestal, will always defer to him since he is man of the house, is amazingly loyal like the girls portrayed in the classic blockbuster Bollywood love stories of the 90s, will sacrifirice for him and make him the center of her world and love him like his own mother did, all while treating her in laws like her own parents while happily leaving behind her own. Knowing how to cook chicken biryani and chicken kadhai are a must. Education is optional but a plus. However, the more independent and fiercly feminist-centric she is the more he is turned off. This virtually rules out >99% of desi women these days. Btw, if there is a girl like this reading this contact me, I’m single. Kidding…I think..

It’s easier for guys to find girls out of their league (more common to find an average looking guy with a beautiful girl than finding a good looking guy with a strictly average or below average girl)..so yeah its a bit more difficult for the girls to get the already very rare dreamy guys they want. However, I do think girls have it easier overall because even the average looking girls tend to receive much more attention from the opposite sex than the average male. Girls these days, and especially the good looking ones, often have several beta guys lined up who are ready to put them on a pedestal but these otherwise nice decent shareef guys tend to be a bit more bland in their personality (nerdy, uncool, or strictly average), needy (crave attention and time from the girl) and/or aren’t as good looking so they are friend zoned (or worse bhai-zoned) and only truly considered during desperate times. These beta guys are readily available and often used by these girls to chat as time pass and/or self-esteem boosters while the beta lingers in her life, just hoping and wishing he will win her over eventually by his decency and niceness. And rest assured, he will go out of his way for her and constantly make his niceness known to the girl. Unfortunately, doesn’t always work out for these guys in their pursuit for these girls who are looking for someone more exciting and/or better looking.

As we go through the ristha process and see reality (and sometimes come to the realization that we are inflating our own self-worth), the above criteria do often dwindle down. We have just become extremely picky these days because we always wonder if we can find someone better which is made so much easier today due to technology, people don’t want to have the feeling that they’re potentially missing out on something better and just settling. The 99% want the 1%.

Very well stated! I wanted to add that in addition to all the expectations of perfection that the men and women have…let’s not forget the families. Often times parents won’t approve b/c of a reason that really doesn’t matter to the person getting married…but due to our culture, the person will reject the rishta b/c mom/dad don’t approve.

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Men shortage

Alright send some beta fish my way.
Where are they?

[aqua70]

Re: Men shortage

@pak2015

There is no true shortage. The below applies primarily to the ristha process. I’m so envious of people who find their significant other during school or training. Some of this is tongue in cheek and exaggerated so no need to get offended.

Women want the >5’10" good looking, fit, intelligent men who dont have receding hairlines and aren’t balding, are settled professionals (doctors, lawyers, engineers, business, etc), who dont smoke or drink alcohol yet aren’t too conservative, are mature yet romantic laid back alpha males with a good sense of humor with sizzling chemistry who aren’t demanding or needy and never get mad or raise their voice but will love her faithfully and unconditionally so that she doesnt have to adjust too much after marriage and he will just adore her and put up with all her nakhrey and high maintenance, he wont ask her to sacrifice or compromise, and will let her continue to act like she was when she was single and allow her the freedom to do whatever she wishes to do, all while expecting him to sacrifice and live close to her parents after marriage. Along with everything above, the more money he makes the better. This virtually rules out >99% of desi men.

Men, despite their own numerous shortcomings, want the decent, shareef, innocent yet stunningly beautiful and light-skinned fit angel with no past who has a cute and playful yet nurturing personality, is a classy lady in public, she never nags and isnt too clingy but will put him on a pedestal, will always defer to him since he is man of the house, is amazingly loyal like the girls portrayed in the classic blockbuster Bollywood love stories of the 90s, will sacrifirice for him and make him the center of her world and love him like his own mother did, all while treating her in laws like her own parents while happily leaving behind her own. Knowing how to cook chicken biryani and chicken kadhai are a must. Education is optional but a plus. However, the more independent and fiercly feminist-centric she is the more he is turned off. This virtually rules out >99% of desi women these days. Btw, if there is a girl like this reading this contact me, I’m single. Kidding…I think..

It’s easier for guys to find girls out of their league (more common to find an average looking guy with a beautiful girl than finding a good looking guy with a strictly average or below average girl)..so yeah its a bit more difficult for the girls to get the already very rare dreamy guys they want. However, I do think girls have it easier overall because even the average looking girls tend to receive much more attention from the opposite sex than the average male. Girls these days, and especially the good looking ones, often have several beta guys lined up who are ready to put them on a pedestal but these otherwise nice decent shareef guys tend to be a bit more bland in their personality (nerdy, uncool, or strictly average), needy (crave attention and time from the girl) and/or aren’t as good looking so they are friend zoned (or worse bhai-zoned) and only truly considered during desperate times. These beta guys are readily available and often used by these girls to chat as time pass and/or self-esteem boosters while the beta lingers in her life, just hoping and wishing he will win her over eventually by his decency and niceness. And rest assured, he will go out of his way for her and constantly make his niceness known to the girl. Unfortunately, doesn’t always work out for these guys in their pursuit for these girls who are looking for someone more exciting and/or better looking.

As we go through the ristha process and see reality (and sometimes come to the realization that we are inflating our own self-worth), the above criteria do often dwindle down. We have just become extremely picky these days because we always wonder if we can find someone better which is made so much easier today due to technology, people don’t want to have the feeling that they’re potentially missing out on something better and just settling. The 99% want the 1%.

Dude you are spot on!

[PeshawarKameez]

Re: Men shortage

@rx988

whats the deal or are women just being picky?

haha picky women? thats funny. because men are never picky right? they don’t want women who are not only slim and fair skin but she also has to be pretty, shorter than him, aged between 18-24 (even if he is in his 40s), educated to a certain level and and of course we can’t leave out the all important - willing to give up everything - her family, her job, her independence - to move in with him and his family so that she can spend the rest of her life being a good little submissive wife.

theres no shortage of men, there are no picky women (ok maybe there are some), most men are simply getting themselves brides from abroad

EDIT - crap, pak2015 said it all already

[Qabil]

Re: Men shortage

@pak2015

There is no true shortage. The below applies primarily to the ristha process. I’m so envious of people who find their significant other during school or training. Some of this is tongue in cheek and exaggerated so no need to get offended.

Women want the >5’10" good looking, fit, intelligent men who dont have receding hairlines and aren’t balding, are settled professionals (doctors, lawyers, engineers, business, etc), who dont smoke or drink alcohol yet aren’t too conservative, are mature yet romantic laid back alpha males with a good sense of humor with sizzling chemistry who aren’t demanding or needy and never get mad or raise their voice but will love her faithfully and unconditionally so that she doesnt have to adjust too much after marriage and he will just adore her and put up with all her nakhrey and high maintenance, he wont ask her to sacrifice or compromise, and will let her continue to act like she was when she was single and allow her the freedom to do whatever she wishes to do, all while expecting him to sacrifice and live close to her parents after marriage. Along with everything above, the more money he makes the better. This virtually rules out >99% of desi men.

Men, despite their own numerous shortcomings, want the decent, shareef, innocent yet stunningly beautiful and light-skinned fit angel with no past who has a cute and playful yet nurturing personality, is a classy lady in public, she never nags and isnt too clingy but will put him on a pedestal, will always defer to him since he is man of the house, is amazingly loyal like the girls portrayed in the classic blockbuster Bollywood love stories of the 90s, will sacrifirice for him and make him the center of her world and love him like his own mother did, all while treating her in laws like her own parents while happily leaving behind her own. Knowing how to cook chicken biryani and chicken kadhai are a must. Education is optional but a plus. However, the more independent and fiercly feminist-centric she is the more he is turned off. This virtually rules out >99% of desi women these days. Btw, if there is a girl like this reading this contact me, I’m single. Kidding…I think..

It’s easier for guys to find girls out of their league (more common to find an average looking guy with a beautiful girl than finding a good looking guy with a strictly average or below average girl)..so yeah its a bit more difficult for the girls to get the already very rare dreamy guys they want. However, I do think girls have it easier overall because even the average looking girls tend to receive much more attention from the opposite sex than the average male. Girls these days, and especially the good looking ones, often have several beta guys lined up who are ready to put them on a pedestal but these otherwise nice decent shareef guys tend to be a bit more bland in their personality (nerdy, uncool, or strictly average), needy (crave attention and time from the girl) and/or aren’t as good looking so they are friend zoned (or worse bhai-zoned) and only truly considered during desperate times. These beta guys are readily available and often used by these girls to chat as time pass and/or self-esteem boosters while the beta lingers in her life, just hoping and wishing he will win her over eventually by his decency and niceness. And rest assured, he will go out of his way for her and constantly make his niceness known to the girl. Unfortunately, doesn’t always work out for these guys in their pursuit for these girls who are looking for someone more exciting and/or better looking.

As we go through the ristha process and see reality (and sometimes come to the realization that we are inflating our own self-worth), the above criteria do often dwindle down. We have just become extremely picky these days because we always wonder if we can find someone better which is made so much easier today due to technology, people don’t want to have the feeling that they’re potentially missing out on something better and just settling. The 99% want the 1%.

Please do some additions to turn this post into a proper blog and send it to ET or TOI. Of-course a lot of people read it here on GS but this piece of writing truly deserves an even bigger audience.

[taffer87]

Re: Men shortage

Brilliant post.. One thing that is very slightly not plausible: You say: Avg guys get to marry pretty girls more… Good looking guys also only marry pretty girls usually.. How’s that possible if you assume a normal / even distribution of looks… How can both average guys (or a significant portion of them) and good looking guys (most of them) both marry pretty girls. The only way this is possible is that you are saying there are more pretty/beautiful girls than good looking guys. Which is difficult to imagine as then guys would over time change their definition of beautify/pretty and even if this is actually happening then it’s solving a natural phenomenon i.e. there are more pretty girls than good looking boys so some of them have to naturally marry average looking guys.. Sorry if the above got too twisted and not clear but my premise is .. if average girls marry pretty girls then there must be an equal number or close of good looking guys marrying average women. The above ignores that there may be a very slight difference in the male/female gender ratios of a population

@pak2015

There is no true shortage. The below applies primarily to the ristha process. I’m so envious of people who find their significant other during school or training. Some of this is tongue in cheek and exaggerated so no need to get offended. Women want the >5’10" good looking, fit, intelligent men who dont have receding hairlines and aren’t balding, are settled professionals (doctors, lawyers, engineers, business, etc), who dont smoke or drink alcohol yet aren’t too conservative, are mature yet romantic laid back alpha males with a good sense of humor with sizzling chemistry who aren’t demanding or needy and never get mad or raise their voice but will love her faithfully and unconditionally so that she doesnt have to adjust too much after marriage and he will just adore her and put up with all her nakhrey and high maintenance, he wont ask her to sacrifice or compromise, and will let her continue to act like she was when she was single and allow her the freedom to do whatever she wishes to do, all while expecting him to sacrifice and live close to her parents after marriage. Along with everything above, the more money he makes the better. This virtually rules out >99% of desi men. Men, despite their own numerous shortcomings, want the decent, shareef, innocent yet stunningly beautiful and light-skinned fit angel with no past who has a cute and playful yet nurturing personality, is a classy lady in public, she never nags and isnt too clingy but will put him on a pedestal, will always defer to him since he is man of the house, is amazingly loyal like the girls portrayed in the classic blockbuster Bollywood love stories of the 90s, will sacrifirice for him and make him the center of her world and love him like his own mother did, all while treating her in laws like her own parents while happily leaving behind her own. Knowing how to cook chicken biryani and chicken kadhai are a must. Education is optional but a plus. However, the more independent and fiercly feminist-centric she is the more he is turned off. This virtually rules out >99% of desi women these days. Btw, if there is a girl like this reading this contact me, I’m single. Kidding…I think.. It’s easier for guys to find girls out of their league (more common to find an average looking guy with a beautiful girl than finding a good looking guy with a strictly average or below average girl)..so yeah its a bit more difficult for the girls to get the already very rare dreamy guys they want. However, I do think girls have it easier overall because even the average looking girls tend to receive much more attention from the opposite sex than the average male. Girls these days, and especially the good looking ones, often have several beta guys lined up who are ready to put them on a pedestal but these otherwise nice decent shareef guys tend to be a bit more bland in their personality (nerdy, uncool, or strictly average), needy (crave attention and time from the girl) and/or aren’t as good looking so they are friend zoned (or worse bhai-zoned) and only truly considered during desperate times. These beta guys are readily available and often used by these girls to chat as time pass and/or self-esteem boosters while the beta lingers in her life, just hoping and wishing he will win her over eventually by his decency and niceness. And rest assured, he will go out of his way for her and constantly make his niceness known to the girl. Unfortunately, doesn’t always work out for these guys in their pursuit for these girls who are looking for someone more exciting and/or better looking. As we go through the ristha process and see reality (and sometimes come to the realization that we are inflating our own self-worth), the above criteria do often dwindle down. We have just become extremely picky these days because we always wonder if we can find someone better which is made so much easier today due to technology, people don’t want to have the feeling that they’re potentially missing out on something better and just settling. The 99% want the 1%.

[TLK]

@PeshawarKameez:10285917

haha picky women? thats funny. because men are never picky right? they don’t want women who are not only slim and fair skin but she also has to be pretty, shorter than him, aged between 18-24 (even if he is in his 40s), educated to a certain level and and of course we can’t leave out the all important - willing to give up everything - her family, her job, her independence - to move in with him and his family so that she can spend the rest of her life being a good little submissive wife.

Now now, you are making it sound like our expectations are unreasonable

[pak2015]

Re: Men shortage

@taffer87

Brilliant post.. One thing that is very slightly not plausible: You say: Avg guys get to marry pretty girls more… Good looking guys also only marry pretty girls usually.. How’s that possible if you assume a normal / even distribution of looks… How can both average guys (or a significant portion of them) and good looking guys (most of them) both marry pretty girls. The only way this is possible is that you are saying there are more pretty/beautiful girls than good looking guys. Which is difficult to imagine as then guys would over time change their definition of beautify/pretty and even if this is actually happening then it’s solving a natural phenomenon i.e. there are more pretty girls than good looking boys so some of them have to naturally marry average looking guys.. Sorry if the above got too twisted and not clear but my premise is .. if average girls marry pretty girls then there must be an equal number or close of good looking guys marrying average women. The above ignores that there may be a very slight difference in the male/female gender ratios of a population

Yeah I’m assuming an unequal distribution of good looking girls vs. guys. Why? Because a lot of above average girls can enter the top category of good looking with just make up, getting their hair done, wearing nice classy outfits, jewelry, etc etc. Even the most average girls can look good with the magic of make up. So yes the distribution is artifically raised in the favor of more good looking girls than good looking guys.

Also keep in the mind that good looking guys can get the good looking girls to fool around with but when it comes time for marriage qualifications of the guy also matter, especially to the girls parents. Most good looking girls arent going to marry junkies just because theyre good looking. These girls ideally want the best of both worlds–good looking AND qualifications (i.e. rich). Thus, in the long run good looking guys who arent qualified can lose out to the average looking guy who is better qualified and/or rich when it comes time for marriage. You will see these types of couples. The guys who have it the best are the good looking qualified guys.

[taffer87]

Re: Men shortage

haha fair point… makeup does wonders to girls’ looks!

@pak2015

Yeah I’m assuming an unequal distribution of good looking girls vs. guys. Why? Because a lot of above average girls can enter the top category of good looking with just make up, getting their hair done, wearing nice classy outfits, jewelry, etc etc. Even the most average girls can look good with the magic of make up. So yes the distribution is artifically raised in the favor of more good looking girls than good looking guys.

Also keep in the mind that good looking guys can get the good looking girls to fool around with but when it comes time for marriage qualifications of the guy also matter, especially to the girls parents. Most good looking girls arent going to marry junkies just because theyre good looking. These girls ideally want the best of both worlds–good looking AND qualifications (i.e. rich). Thus, in the long run good looking guys who arent qualified can lose out to the average looking guy who is better qualified and/or rich when it comes time for marriage. You will see these types of couples. The guys who have it the best are the good looking qualified guys.

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Men shortage

@TLK

Now now, you are making it sound like our expectations are unreasonable

Oh no, those expectations aren’t the least bit unrealistic.

[TLK]

@PyariCgudia:10286063

[quote="“TLK, post:20099, topic:248431"”]

Now now, you are making it sound like our expectations are unreasonable

Oh no, those expectations aren’t the least bit unrealistic.
[/quote]

Thanks for the affirmation pcg.

Peshawari qameez, please listen to what pcg is saying

[SaeedinPakistan]

Re: Men shortage

@pak2015

Yeah I’m assuming an unequal distribution of good looking girls vs. guys. Why? Because a lot of above average girls can enter the top category of good looking with just make up, getting their hair done, wearing nice classy outfits, jewelry, etc etc. Even the most average girls can look good with the magic of make up. So yes the distribution is artifically raised in the favor of more good looking girls than good looking guys.

Also keep in the mind that good looking guys can get the good looking girls to fool around with but when it comes time for marriage qualifications of the guy also matter, especially to the girls parents. Most good looking girls arent going to marry junkies just because theyre good looking. These girls ideally want the best of both worlds–good looking AND qualifications (i.e. rich). Thus, in the long run good looking guys who arent qualified can lose out to the average looking guy who is better qualified and/or rich when it comes time for marriage. You will see these types of couples. The guys who have it the best are the good looking qualified guys.

The same holds true for men also. A guy could get the right hair-do, get rid of facial hair(or grow it right), hit some weights and dress better. The only thing a man can’t change is his height.

[SaeedinPakistan]

Re: Men shortage

@Paheli00

Because short women need to wear sky high heels so they don’t feel like midgets surrounded by tall people.

I wasn’t talking about the heels. I meant wanting a guy whose over 6ft.

[Southie]

Re: Men shortage

6-pack

[SID_NY]

Re: Men shortage

@Southie

6-pack

Better than 6 pegs…

Its weekend

[pak2015]

Re: Men shortage

@SaeedinPakistan

The same holds true for men also. A guy could get the right hair-do, get rid of facial hair(or grow it right), hit some weights and dress better. The only thing a man can’t change is his height.

Yeah of course can hit the gym and clean up well, but should see the instant magic of make up..drastic differences..check out the pics below

http://cdn.funnie.st/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/make-up-before-after-1.jpg

[Pisiform]

Re: Men shortage

Now with practice, I am very good at spotting if a girl is wearing makeup or not

[Southie]

Re: Men shortage

@SID_NY

Better than 6 pegs…

Its weekend

Goes well with popcorn.

[NaMaan]

Re: Men shortage

Desi girls are not approachable . Period .