Re: Men shortage
There is no true shortage. The below applies primarily to the ristha process. I’m so envious of people who find their significant other during school or training. Some of this is tongue in cheek and exaggerated so no need to get offended.
Women want the >5’10" good looking, fit, intelligent men who aren’t balding, are settled professionals (doctors, lawyers, engineers, business, etc), who dont smoke or drink alcohol, romantic laid back alpha males with a good sense of humor with sizzling chemistry who aren’t demanding or needy and never get mad but will love them unconditionally and adore them and put up with all their nakhrey and high maintence, wont ask them to sacrifice or compromise, and let them continue to act like they were during their single days and allows them to do whatever they wish to do, all while expecting him to sacrifice and live close to her parents after marriage. Along with everything above, the more money he makes the better. This virtually rules out >99% of desi men.
Men, despite their own numerous shortcomings, want the decent, shareef, yet amazingly beautiful and classy light-skinned angel with no past who never nags, not too clingy but who will put them on a pedestal, and sacrifirice for them and make them the center of their world and love them like their mothers did, all while treating her in laws like her own parents while leaving behind her own. Knowing how to cook chicken biryani and chicken kadhai are a must. Education is optional but a plus. However, the more independent and fiercly feminist-centric she is the more he is turned off. This virtually rules out >99% of desi women these days.
It’s easier for guys to find girls out of their league (more common to find an average looking guy with a beautiful girl than finding a good looking guy with a strictly average or below average girl)..so yeah its a bit more difficult for the girls to get the already very rare dreamy guys they want. Girls these days often have several betas lined up who are ready to put them on a pedestal but these otherwise nice decent shareef guys tend to be a bit more needy or aren’t good looking so they are friend zoned initially and only truly considered during desperate times.
We have just become extremely picky these days because we always wonder if we can find someone better which is made easier today due to technology. The 99% want the 1%.
Excellent post! I often wonder why people have such a hard time finding someone worthy of their love. Maybe because I found my husband in my late teen years. While my husband is 6’2" and I am gori chitti, neither of us meets other requirements.
People have indeed become too picky. You are never going to find someone perfect who checks off everything on your list. My life is far from perfect but I can’t imagine being with anyone else either. We can work on our career and education but we are not as willing to work on building a relationship with someone who doesn’t check off all the boxes. Sad.