men raping daughters

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Re: men raping daughters

I feel it’s absolutely ridiculous and sad that you think giving an 8 year old girl been given a shower by her father is normal. It is different perceptions.
I feel that it is indecent and not necessary.
My husband relayed that he would never bathe or change our daughter. I haven’t help shower my boys since they were five, my husband does. Does this make me a less loving mother or him father, no way. There should be a line.
I’m amazed at how people here think its normal.
I mean how old does a girl have to be in order for her father to stop helping her with showers???
Most sexual predators are male. And most vulnerable sex are female. This is a norm. Females can be predators and males are victims too.
Nevertheless, I don’t want people ramming down my throat to having a difference of opinion.

Most predators don’t even think their behavior is harmful, they feel that it should be acceptable and the norm. They are loving the child in their own way.

@Paheli00

^ No, I didn’t assume that the father in your story was single. 1 of the dad’s in my example happened to be single…that is all. But I have no idea why whether or not the mother was there makes a difference. Single dads can be perverts too.

The point is that its absolutely ridiculous and sad that you (and the residents in your home) think that there is something perverse about a father giving his 8 year old daughter a bath. The ONLY “justification” for this view is that the father is a male.

Yes I know this thread is about men raping their daughters. And that’s why I’m amazed that you felt it would be appropriate to include a father who was simply giving his daughter a bath as an example of sexual abuse.

There are fathers out there that sexually abuse their sons. There are plenty of cases where mothers have sexually abused their sons and/or daughters. Sexual abuse exists period. And a major part of this problem is people’s refusal to talk about it. But attitudes where only fathers are targeted simply b/c they are men (ie. a man giving his daughter a bath) doesn’t help the situation either. Women (i.e.. mothers) are given a free pass…yet it makes people uncomfortable that a father is doing something to take care of his daughter…and the ONLY reason behind this discomfort is that he’s a man.