Men, high tempers, and relationships

[shawns]

Re: Men, high tempers, and relationships

@rutab

Why do men ruin perfectly good relationships with periodic bursts of temper that are most likely directed towards their spouses?

I have seen my father doing it, my brother, uncles, father in law, and now my husband. They can be perfect for months till one day you get into an argument with them and they say something that leaves you speechless and shocked. It makes you question all the good times and the love declarations.

Is this universal behavior for men?

We my dear friend are a highly emotional culture and emotionalism is not necessarily considered a negative personality trait, we are quick to proclaim the deepest love for someone we hardly know and the very next day we despise their existence, in cultured surroundings children are raised with several years of early childhood training of emotional control, the only way a human child learns is by observing, parents that yell in front of their children will raise yellers.

If the abusive outbursts were an integral part of their makeup, I am curious to know as to why some of these macho, macho men will have] outbursts against defenseless women and children and are almost subservient in front of people more powerful then them.

I am surprised to see so many people defending spousal abuse and somehow try to put the blame on the victim, various societies decided to take a stand against spousal abuse and have made great progress.

Love and fear don’t live in the same place, I want my family to love me and not fear me, the love and sparkle in their eyes is worth more than anything in life.