Re: Men for SALE!!
Firstly, you didn’t offend me. J I’m always open to hearing others views and I actually enjoy reading your posts.
If a girl’s parents have the money to be able to give her lavish gifts and wants to give them voluntarily, then I see nothing wrong with it. I disagree with that statement that all of us could have taken stuff other than clothes and some gold. Take me for example. My parents are poor. No way to sugar coat that. I’m older and have my own career…but I currently have 2 siblings who just started college. At this point, forget “stuff”, my parents cannot even afford to give me formal clothes or gold. Heck honestly, they can’t even afford to really pay for my wedding. My wedding will be paid for by myself, SO, and probably by SO’s parents. I’m blessed to have found a man who(along with his parents) don’t care about crap like jahez.
On the flip side, my SO’s older brother was married a few years ago and her family is very wealthy. SO himself told me how her family gave her tons of lavish gifts. His family knows about my family’s financial situation and yet has never made me feel any “less” b/c of it. SO’s family or his brother didn’t care one way or another whether or not his SIL’s family gave any gifts. I don’t think there was anything “wrong” with her parents giving lavish gifts for their daughter b/c they could afford it. In my own family, there is a mixture of “rich” and “poor”. Some of my cousins get lavish gifts from their parents…but at least in my family, the “poor” ones don’t compete with it or go into debt trying to “keep up”.
I have a problem with situations where the guy or his family DEMAND jahez and threaten to call off the wedding or abuse the new bride if her family can’t meet their demands. In my view, this is totally different than a girl’s family “feeling” like they need to give gifts to “keep up with joness”.