All of us could have taken “stuff” other than our clothes and some gold our mother gave us but we didnt. Im not tooting my own horn here but how strange would it be for a woman to take pricey items with her but stand against jahez?
Its a custom to give large ticket items at a wedding from the girl’s side and that custom itself contributes to the pressure families end up feeling. They have to compete…keep up with Jones. One family did it and now everyone else has to also. It may be hard to convince our parents but not impossible. I would prefer girls spend money on their wedding than take jahez with them. Its the reason why SO many girls back home are still single and cant get married.
I dont mean to offend you at all by the way.
Agreed. My daughters arent taking any jahez with them…at all. They will be strong and independant women who will not need materialistic things to add value to their package so a man can be enticed into marrying them. No way. That is not only setting the stage for future demands but also encouraging a custom that cannot possibly bring any good with it.