What kind of relationship do men have with their father-in-laws? And just how much of a deal is it? Are they seen as friends, surrogate dads or just one of the many faces you just tolerate? The MIL relationship is a classic but for some reason the dad’s always get overlooked.
And what reason/s if any could a guy have to use dad’s picture for darts practise, i.e. what are the charateristics you would intensely dislike in them that you would most probably tolerate in other people who were not so closely related.
I have seen some good, some bad. My friend's future father-in-law, (they will get married in Sept InshAllah) rides him pretty hard. For some reason he's rude to him, rarely acknowledges him. It could be due to the fact he is a sunni, orig from KHI, and his father in law is a guju shia. His theory is hes dissapointed that his son in law isnt the same as him, (guju, shia, bohra, etc)..pretty messed up.
Cliches are fine but I was more interested in how a guy would personally relate to FIL's/future FIL's. What kind of expectations do you have of him as a person who will be close to you, any, or none at all? What kind of interaction would you like to develop?
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I have seen some good, some bad. My friend's future father-in-law, (they will get married in Sept InshAllah) rides him pretty hard. For some reason he's rude to him, rarely acknowledges him. It could be due to the fact he is a sunni, orig from KHI, and his father in law is a guju shia. His theory is hes dissapointed that his son in law isnt the same as him, (guju, shia, bohra, etc)..pretty messed up.
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Thats tough. I wonder to what extent that affects the relationship of your friend and his wife-to-be.
I believe in mutual respect. There need not be a bond-bond, like going fishing bond, carving Thanks giving turkey bond or first to hug eid bond, but they should definitely not avoid each other. My father in law is not a people person, but I have snowed him down to a point that he doesn’t get bored at the dinner table!!
My father in law rocks the house. A son of a school teacher in Providence Rhode Island, he paid his way through Harvard and harvard Law School, he might possibly the smartest person I know. A constace source of learning, perhaps the best read person on earth and an amazing conversationalist about any topic. He and I have a good bond that we share over books, scotch and our veneration for Halle Berry and Rita Hayworth. To him I salute. :soldier:
I am sur ehe woud enjoy that considering he sits on the Board of the Kennedy School of Gov’t and your F.I.L’s escapades would make delightful converation. Then we can all go to a strip bar.
A father in law and the son in law should both respect each other. I believe father in law is like your father and he does have right to telll you if you are doing something wrong, either with your life or with your wife. However, there is a limit and there is only so much he can and he should do. He cant just boss you around or interfere in your personal life. My father in law is a awesome person. We both respect each other and understands each other. and offcourse it doesnt hurt to have the same birthday, cuz we have a lot of similarities and thats why we get along quite well.. although my inlaws dont live with me but we live in the same city so we get to spend a lot of time together.
