Most of you are raised with the idea that one day you will have to shoulder the responsibility of the family - of your own parents, sometimes siblings, and wife/kids.
Which means at some point you have to grow up a little - become more mature, etc.
I was wanting to know what the male perspective is on this - for guys who are in these situations or have already been thru them - what is running through your minds when you think of these tasks that you will be taking on/have taken on as a man, coming out of boyhood.
coz he thinks non-virgin bechlors are not faithful and betraying and have a bad character and are hecka EZ to get
coming back to the topic ! .. its like a bloody truth waiting to haunt me down .. seriously talking, i sometimes get worried abt it but then my corrupted brain comes in play and gives me the awesom idea to marry a DOC kurri FROM PAKISTAN :Dlol .. joking joking . i think its like i have to face it .. so i hope it goes all sound and by prof .. m not sure wat exact proff i m gona lay my arse in .. it cud be Med or Law .. either one.
to answer your question. yes this thought is always there when brought up in a desi environment. plus one has to apperciate what family did for them so i think its fair they should return something back to parents.
for other part of responsibility wife and kids, most men want to take care of their wife and kids and feel that its their responsibilty. and most of us make sure everything required is ready when needed for them. many try to feel this responsibilty well before they actually face the music.
It is tough...so tough that you can't even think about suicide because in the end who will take care of the family. You can try and try to accomplish things accrodingly, but sometimes it is not perfect or equal to wishes and you have to hear it and swallow it. Its like paying off your debt...It better pay off in the end.
God, to be fair, decreed the instittuion of marriage on men to balance the difference of intellect between the sexes (men being smarter:D). Marriage goes against every biological and animal instinct that men possess. Look around the animal world. Most males spend their lives mating with as many females as possible due to the built-in instinct to spread their "seeds." Are we, human males, any different? Dont' think so. Oh God, why marriage? Why couldn't we just prance around naked and mate like our ape brothers??
Why the comparison with animals? God sent animals on earth for human beings to fathom the depth of their own animal instincts, because sometimes we do act upon those latent instincts. (pleae read susan brownmiller's "Against our will" and you will get a clear idea).
Also, you have to look no further than our own bodies. A man produces 300 sperms a day (what a measly little investment for one sperm!! shows how interested we are in raising a kid), whereas women invest a longer time frame to produce only one egg. So much care, so much effort!! Also, shows why females are so picky and careful about picking a mate. So marriage is a pain, a canker sore for us men.....So, if you want us men to mature, you might have to watch your nails grow.....:D
Did ya know....
The female knot-tying weaverbird will refuse to mate with a male who has built a shoddy nest. If spurned, the male must take the nest apart and completely rebuild it in order to win the affections of the female. :D
dope there is more to med then sperms .. kids .. overies u perv dummy ! seriously .. in ur 90% of the posts u mention them and shorten ur posts if u want ppl to read them.
