most likely the guy is a sissy or unsure of his sexuality, sort of stuck in the middle. A guy with all the physical attributes of a man but soul of a woman :D
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LK, u know what, us men are very simple creatures. Just flash the guy and he'll forget all of his problems.
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hahahahahhaa
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most likely the guy is a sissy or unsure of his sexuality, sort of stuck in the middle. A guy with all the physical attributes of a man but soul of a woman :D
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LOL! No he has his irritating manly side...but don't you share your problems with your female friends? We're not talking boyfriend/girlfriend relationship..just normal pals.
hmm, when I am complaining to a women I am trying to get her sympathy. And I hope she will “cheer” me up in form of some serious lovin. 
NO REALLY, THAT’S WHAT I AM REALLY TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH.
LK, I don't know what kind of a male would need a woman's shoulder to cry on. I am not being a chauvinistic macho, but usually men share their problems more openly with male friend(s), especially with someone to whom they are really close. Sharing one’s problems with a woman other than a girlfriend/wife is a definite sign of a flaw in my opinion; whatever it maybe, and more likely the person is looking for sympathy instead of advice.
^ i dont agree with that. Everyone is quite different…
Ive met many guys who prefer talking to females about their problems.. infact ive had a few even cry over the phone.. i dont think they are babies at all…
then on the other hand, i know guys who only discuss their issues with their guy mates.. personal preference i guess.. comfortablilty factor
but yeah, ive met more males who discuss their issues with females rather than males. It could be cus they want sympathy.. or just cus they find it easier
everytime i go to pak, my three male cousins bombard me with their issues 
its like they wait a whole year (or 2) for me to get there and pour everything out… does make me feel speshal though
well paki men happen to be at the rock bottom, when it comes to such things :D but I still can't fathom how a man would feel the urge to cry his heart out in front of a woman who is just a 'friend' or a relative. It's possibly one of the most namby-pamby overtures i can think of :D..no offense
^ actually all of them were pakistani haha :)
i dunno.. maybe i look like a crying machine.. i dunno..
The funniest thing is when the woman hears it all and then wants to talk about ‘her’ That’s the worst cold shoulder you can ever get.
But there are some women with whom you want to share stuff and get a ‘feedback’ not a ‘yes’ or ‘sympathy’…Most of the time these are the women who have more male friends than female.
^ i used to be like that.. i mean there was a time when i had lots more male friends. But shukar hai they are all married now or on the verge of it... now im carefrreeee hehe :)
but u know Fayz, some guys really do only want sympathy.. like they dont care for ur input at all! and some guys only use u.. so they can get to ur best friend "grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr" ok remembering old times...
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Uh oh
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And what is that supposed to mean? :-D
Abdullah..I know the cranky one..those that get all that get all dramatic and want you to pet em and say "ohh don't worry sweetie".
Well this guy was sorta "hyper" over some legal issues regarding his business and so he sorta call me up and has this faith in prayer and stuff and appreciates the prayer. He's mature..he knows what he's doing and he doesn't need my physical or emotional help... but does like it when I reassure him and tell him he'll get through it..remind him of all the ostacles that he's over come and tell him this is just and easy one...get his mind of it...crack a few jokes...sometimes you just want to hear it from someone..anyone...and I think that's okay after all we're all human.
Fayz...well women have a tendency to share personal experiences hoping it'll help the other person with the problem..btu I've leart that no one wants to hear that you went through it as well...so I listen and if I can I do offer advice... but I always do promise to pray.
People do have a tendecy to trust me..why I dont know...and yeah especially guys..I guess it's coz I don;t look at every guy as a potential boyfriend...never did in school or college and still don't. (despite popular belief on GS). Or maybe they figure they can tell me everything and like me, even care about me..but I'm too ugly to date :D
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So my question is..when a guy calls you up and tells you his problems...does he want you to sit and listen? give advice? sympathise with him? or does he want a pep talk?
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Why don't you ask him what he wants? Nicely, but that way you can keep listening... seriously I don't think people want advice, they want help to figure it out themselves!