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Lets look at it from another angle. Is the man we are talking about a real uncle to the girl? In case yes; Isn't this forbidden/haram?
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DHTN, was it the uncle who said the girl encouraged his moves on her? I mean, how did you infere she liked the filthy attention?
And I read somewhere, you accessed his computer and came to know about his still alive obsession for the neice, I wonder how his wife did not stumble upon something which obviously was lying right on the desktop, else how would you have accessed it unless you were snooping around, digging up files from personal folders. And the uncle is stupid on top of being a perv, he actually wrote something about his fantasies and let the document float around on his PC, which I assume is also used by his wife.
In short, I think the story isn't plausible, either you are just speculating based on rumours and making up an imaginery scenario( spotting a file of his confession of his perversion) to back it up or you are a snooper.
The story is ambiguous and even if it is true, the man who must be like 50+ needs to clean up his act and I hold him more accountable for whatever has happened, the girl's actions could be attributed to raging hormones. ( all this if the story holds)
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I am reminded of a joke. Its in no way in defence of the uncle here :-)
A young lady recently married to a 60 years old man asks him, "Darling, lets go upstairs and make love."
He replies: "Make a choice, I cant do both"
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haha! Must be Anna Nicole Smith
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God give ur relatives tofeeq to read n understand islam n gain some knowledge abt MEHREN n NA MAHREM . Ameen !
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Thank you. I have been trying to get the point across since the beginning. It’s not cheating!
Fraudz He hasn’t acted out any of his fantasies, and he obviously can’t be punished for harboring such fantasies. I agree, we can’t blame the parents for it, because they both are mature enough to handle things on their own. As for trusting the guy, I know him since I was born and I pretty much know his limits ‘cause’ I have grown in the family. How can you talk about his actions when he never actually did anything except for talking to her for hours? Why don’t you guys read before jumping to conclusions? I mentioned a hundred times that I didn’t want the thread to be too personal and pUhlease! I am not trying to downplay the situation. It’s getting too personal. Read, read, read!
Shikra I agree with you to some extent. She surely liked the attention she was getting from the uncle, but he shouldn’t have encouraged it in the first place. Since he was the mature one, he should have spanked her for flirting with him. Guys have less control over themselves, I absolutely agree! but a guy in his 50’s should not even have any desires (that too for his niece)!!..
MehnazQ Agree! :k: They don’t need therapy though. Remember, they haven’t played out such acts. Does having long conversation sessions with his niece count? I think not…
Seedha Saadha yes, they are blood related. Of course, it is haram to even fantasize such things for his bhaanji.
Chandbeti ahaan! well, she is my cousin and I know how she acts around guys. She obviously liked the attention she was getting or else why would she take interest in talking to him, considering most bhanjis/bhateejis really don’t find it too interesting. I agree, she was naive but she isn’t anymore. Hence, I blame the uncle. O and I don’t find being nosy very amusing so turning it against me won’t help. However, you brought up a good point, because you obviously didn’t read like Mr. Fraudia. Let me say this again, his wife doesn’t use computers. Did I ever say that it was lying on the desktop? What idiot would do that! O here, let me disclose another part of the story even though why I accessed his computer shouldn’t be relevent to the discussion. I wasn’t snooping around or diging through folders. I simply started the internet browser. As I was going to type something in the research box the dropped down list of old searches popped up. That’s where I saw her name along the word sex. See? I told you I wasn’t nosy.
Mr BombasticYes, let’s all pray!
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wow, how’s that for justice
man should go to jail but girl is innocent (hormones you know)
LMAO
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eww, its his neice, if she was lil itd be wrong. and if she's 23 and knows thats gross...
either way if he's really obssesed w/ her (she was on his comp w/ the word sex) than what if he tries to harass or abuse her ( it could happen) ..
and if it was fantasing (eww about your neice) thats not cheating..
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Doesn't the drop down box contain the words searched in the past? So he made a search on, (let's say the neice's name is "Tania") "tania sex"? What kind of a search is that?! Exactly what was he looking for? Are you sure her name isn't the same as some other celebrity? And she talked to him when she was quite young right? Maybe she wasn't aware of his intentions back then? You said they don't talk anymore so I assume it was way in the past.
skhan: yeh, now sue me. I hold the older person more responsible. I never said the proportion of responsibility I hold for them is that skewed. He is married, like 30 years elder to her and her uncle on top of it. On account of maturity and marital status I hold him more responsible, don't make this a gender war.
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^ well, her name isn't as common as Tania. I am pretty sure he was referring to her, I don't exactly know what he was searching for. I can't go to him and ask him why he did made such search. Nonetheless, the format you mentioned is exacly how it was written.
Mods Please lock this thread or remove it completely.
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Na Na Beta Matsui uncle ke pass kabhi mat jana.. woh tumhen gode mein betha lain gay aur woh shalwar kameez pehntay hain… & u know pple dont wear undies in shalwar kameez
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Why have such words on an internet browser?
Does he have pictures of her and/or has she posted herself on some websites???
DOesn’t make SENSE! 
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Shobig why do ukeep reviving threads? 
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Shobig why do ukeep reviving threads?
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Because he / she has an incest …
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mard kabhi boorha nahee hota - ladies remember that esp young ladies
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well women have fantasies too, but what you mentioned is more on the perverted side.
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terribly disgusting
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ok the pedophilic, perverted ones...not so cool
but sexual fantasies in general are pretty normal, and usual in both men and women...
it's all in how you act on whatever fantasies you have and if you have someone willing to share in them