Re: Men and Arrange Marriages~ Apprehensions.
yea maybe that is the demarcation. If you are rather pleased with the parents decision, as you believe they would find a better choice for you, so your family decides for you, and you just step into that experience, hopefully turning it into a successful relationship. I guess this is what we call arrange marriage, and yes, this arrange marriage is totally a positive move, a gesture of trust for your parents. Whereas, if you take the thing only as an obligation, that tells for it all. Family pressure and whatnot. Now the question is, what are the reasons and motives that change all happy and merry arrange marriage into simply an obligation, a family pressure.
P.S: Here, one thing should please be kept in mind, that we are not to victimise those who had to be into it due to some family pressure and obligation. Its very much natural and you come to know how obligatory it is only when you come across it. I know for many people it must be blah and blah, this marriage of obligation, they would tend to take it their way, but its not always a hyporatic and a coward action. There can be something simply more than that.