Re: Men and Arrange Marriages~ Apprehensions.
yes... but r u 'trapped' into arrange marriage.. ?? just wondering how men feel about it?
Well without going into details, yes, the original query fits 100% on me. I would not say that I was trapped. Nobody can be trapped into an arranged marriage. It's us guys who give the consent to our parents. More than the trap, I would call it a family pressure, obligation or simply being too obedient to give consent for an arrange marriage. Now I am talking particularly for the guys who have previously been into relationships and then fall for arranged marriages. Today I can say that all these guys should come out of that shell of pressure, obligation or obedience and look for the best interests of themselves. It's the guy who will be suffering for the rest of his life not the parents. One small thing I would like to mention is that my mom who picked my wife from within the family only a week after the marriage said, "oops we made a mistake." I was so pissed and said, "what, are you mad?" This wasn't a joke, after ruining my life, now when I complied with your will/wish, you are telling me that you made a mistake.
So the conclusion is that our parents generally cannot make the right decision for us so why even bother with it.
It's too late for me but I would like to suggest to all my fellow countrymen to rise above our boseeda tradition and make their own choice if they can.
It may still be ok to do arranged marriage for those who live in those traditional environment (haven't seen otherwise).