Most guys and gals keep a few mementos of their previous relationships. Things of emotional value but not of material value. It could be a locket, a ring, a movie stub…god knows. Anything really. The question is, does keeping that keep-sake mean you are not completely faithful to your current relationship? That you still miss and cherish something other than what you already have.
More so does one even tell the current significant other that this is infact a keep-sake from another lass or lad?
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this reminds me of the Friends episode in which Monica, Rachel and Phoebe burn their past boyfriend's mementos... that led to a fire in the apartment :p
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I've kept my ex's skull, which I polish with my very own spit and a tattered, soft rag every now and then. I keep it around as a memento, it's a thing of sentimental value that I deeply cherish. And, uh, also because it's evidence. So, err, in my case, I guess it's best that I don't tell the current lucky lad about it.
When I gaze upon the keepsake, it conjures up memories of a happier time. When there was laughter. When the conversation flowed endlessly into the wee hours of the morning and never went stale. When it was harder to say goodbye cuz you just didn't want to. Sigh, oh well. At least I have the skull.
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I've kept my ex's skull, which I polish with my very own spit and a soft rag every now and then. I keep it around as a memento, it's a thing of sentimental value that I deeply cherish. And, uh, also because it's evidence. So, err, in my case, I guess it's best that I don't tell the current lucky lad about it.
When I gaze at it, it conjures up memories of a happier time. When there was laughter. When the conversation flowed endlessly into the wee hours of the morning and never went stale. When it was harder to say goodbye cuz you didn't want to. Sigh, oh well. At least I have the skull.
LMAO :p
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The question is, does keeping that keep-sake mean you are not completely faithful to your current relationship? That you still miss and cherish something other than what you already have.
More so does one even tell the current significant other that this is infact a keep-sake from another lass or lad?
Well, it can depend upon the intentions behind why that memento is kept. There are people who keep a wrinkled Valentine's Day card made of construction paper from their 3rd grade crush. Or they'll keep a letter written by a secret or otherwise known admirer that they didn't feel the same way about. These things are flattering, they make you feel special, and that's ONE reason why they may be kept. You can't compare a current and stable relationship with these two past examples. Another reason why people keep mementos is because it's reminiscent of a special time. Something you look at once in a blue moon, and it brings a smile to your face.
The interesting thing about these mementos is that people usually don't think about them. Usually people are not consumed by thoughts of that memento. After several years, you might stumble upon a box containing various mementos while cleaning your attic or something. So you sit down and reminisce for a few minutes and those few minutes don't compare to the many hours and days and years that you spend with your current SO. Or maybe out of nowhere, years later, something triggers the memory of that person. Doesn't necessarily mean that you were thinking of that person the whole time. If we are able to remember unpleasant things from our past, if we're able to remember trivial details in life, then it's not unusual for us to remember good times as well.
Now, there are also people who keep mementos because they prove something about their capabilities. For example, a person keeps mementos as a record of how many girls they've scored. Or as proof of their flirting capabilities, or as a collection proving how hot and mack-worthy they were. It's messed up, but it can happen.
I think that when your ex is on your mind so many times during the day even when the memento is nowhere in sight, when you don't even need a memento to think about him/her...then you haven't moved on from that person.
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I have nothing but memory...
I lost everything and destroyed much else...
But all is buried in the depths of my mind, all I can do is continue ever forwards striving for pastures new.
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^ You, martyr, you. Always in a state of battle.
Also, the absence of a memento doesn't necessarily mean that one is being 100% mentally faithful either. Thought I'd throw that in there to mess things up, :p
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LOL I cant help it…
thats food for thought indeed… but we are all human. 
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I think keeping any sort of memories of past relationships is wrong. Its the past, letting it go is the only proper way to move on and accept something new in your life.
I cannot imagine starting a new relationship or even moving on when you're linked in any way to the past.
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When you are over and done with something, one should just let it go!
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I've kept my ex's skull, which I polish with my very own spit and a tattered, soft rag every now and then. I keep it around as a memento, it's a thing of sentimental value that I deeply cherish. And, uh, also because it's evidence. So, err, in my case, I guess it's best that I don't tell the current lucky lad about it.
When I gaze upon the keepsake, it conjures up memories of a happier time. When there was laughter. When the conversation flowed endlessly into the wee hours of the morning and never went stale. When it was harder to say goodbye cuz you just didn't want to. Sigh, oh well. At least I have the skull.
Now that is Criminal Minds creepy.
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My X met me first time at Minar-e-Pakistan and it reminds me of her time and time again. Please help me getting rid of Minar-e-Pakistan :(
any sucide mujahid?
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How ungrateful. Never mind the time I took to respond seriously to your questions. Go ahead and only dwell upon and censure my individual method for honoring my deceased loved ones. Err, I mean one. There was only one. Singular, not plural. There shall never be another. 
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My X met me first time at Minar-e-Pakistan and it reminds me of her time and time again. Please help me getting rid of Minar-e-Pakistan any sucide mujahid?
Aye leave Minar e Pakistan alone... :ASA:
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I think I'd be a little hurt if I found out my husband was carrying around a piece of paper in his wallet that his ex gave him...
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^ ditto
Lol, last straw you are funny.
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i completely destroyed each and every thing..