mehram/na-mehram

Sweetmoi · September 28, 2012, 4:45pm

Re: mehram/na-mehram

Couples that observe the sharai parda will obviously take certain steps to ensure what they are doing is in accordance to any religious laws, by talking to the imam and looking at what they are about to do and if this is right from a religous point.

but when a couple are thinking about or going to adopt a child you would be (and also making every other family memeber thats involved) looking at that child as your own child not as somone else’s because your giving that child your own family name you have to be clear in your heart and your partner has to be clear in their heart that they look at that child through a parents eyes and not as something else. When your adopting your taking the responsibility of loving and caring for that child as your own, if your too busy thinking about mehram and na mehram then somewhere in your heart you dont belive that child is yours which will be a bit unfair on the chosen child. If you already have other children then you will be teaching them that this is your new brother or sister and you have to respect them as that relationship.

I want to Inshallah adopt a child, and this hasnt even crossed my mind about the whole “kissing and hugging the child would you feel right” becasue to me as a person who doesnt observ sharai Parda I am taking this child to my home where me and my husband our the parents and this child is ours you’re going to console and deal with the child as your own.

Just my two cents from a none sharai parda way

Okay, maybe I’m not understanding the word sharai parda, but I thought it meant you did hijab?!

Anyhow, obviously when you adopt a child you do it with the intention of “making” that child yours, why would you else do it? One thing is how you feel about the child in your heart, another thing is what your relationship is with the child in your religion, in this case being Islam. And as I can see it from the replies here I guess it all come downs to how you view upon this. For me personally I would do something like TLK suggested as even if I dont do sharai parda/Hijab, I dont have the frank kind of relationship with na-mehrams in my life (cousins, door ke rishtedaar etc etc), which I would like to have with a son.