hi if my bhabhi calls me to the mehndi invite me in front of my bro .. then i dont know how im gonna say no .. should i go after what happened at her last gathering (if i am here) and just sit with other people and not go near her friends even if they call me or should i just avoid it all together ? its tough call bcz it is a really big occassion which is part of the shadi of my bro which is abig happiness in his life which is coming up soon ..
what would u girls do if you were in my in my place considering what happened at the shower ? ..
** its tough call bcz it is a really big occassion which is part of the shadi of my bro which is abig happiness in his life which is coming up soon .**.
thanks
Go for your brother. A bridal shower is not as big a deal as a mehndi. A bridal shower is only about your bhabi. The mehndi also involves your brother.
Your bhabi's friends are like strangers to you....you're not close to them so try not to get worked up over their attitude/opinion of you. There will be OTHER people at the mehndi that you can talk to. I say that you attend the mehndi with confidence and make up your mind that you WILL have a good time there...and thus show your bhabi and her friends that they do not have any power over you...that their petty scheme did not scare you. Be polite to your bhabi and her friends...put a smile on your face (even if you have to fake it).
Also, by not attending the gathering, you risk creating drama in the family. Your brother might get offended...your bhabi might raise this as an issue even if she secretly doesn't want you there anyway...and people's tongues might wag that the groom's sister is MIA. It should be a time of happy memories for your brother/family...not fraught with tension. Plus, iA you're going to get married one day as well....and there is that saying that what goes around comes around. I think that deep down you know what the right thing to do is.
what do u mean IF she calls me.. Dude . its ur brothers mehndi.. its UR GUY's function.. u HAVe to be there. and dont be bothered by her friends or ne one else.. u should be running around taking charge and make the other ppl ( friends) feel like guests... also if possible have a friend or two of ur own to go with u.. so u arent all alone and have a great time
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Focus on the long term, even of it would feel uncomfortable to go. Go for your brother, for being the bigger person and just so you're not the one creating drama..