Mehndi Rasams

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Hello everyone
not sure if this topic has been discussed before but i thought i would get to know wut rasams everyone had at there mehndis
actually in my family we have 2 mehndis
the one at my fiances house i wont attend n vice versa but now ive seen many pics where everyone has the mehndis together
i wouldve preferrred that but its just a tradition in our family so i have to continue it…
would love to know wut other traditions ppl have??

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Hello Eyelashes. Its interesting that u will have a mehndi at your fiance's that u won't attend yourself.

In our (my parents area of pakistan) its traditional for the grooms side to attend to girl's mehndi (without the groom!), taking henna with lit candles in it, and then the girls side WON'T LET THEM IN until they pay GOOD MONEY. When they r allowed in, they give the henna out and do a bit of a sing song and dance.

I don't think groom's side have a mehndi for the girl, but not too sure bcos i haven't had that much contact with such traditions.

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i swear, even i just hate that the groom and bride cannot attend one another's mehdi. in my case too, for my mehdi they came without groom and i didnt go there either... although my in laws were broad minded and had no prb but my sick relatives and their mentality stopped my parents frm it. i really wish we were together.. it wud have been so much fun...

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rupayhalwa- that sounds like alot of fun...
mall- totally agree

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in my family we are suppose to have two as well, but i guess nowadays to save time n money we have started having one big mehndi...which is what i will have.

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great topic, even i would like to know what rasams are done at mehndis?

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not a regiular one..but i've had one in my faimly.. its interesting.. one of the days before shadi.. before the regular mehndi.. the groom'side and the groom and his friends.
(not a lot of people) they go to the girl's house without telling.. and take the dhollwala with them.. and well basically wake them up (its latenight) and the girl is brought out the and made to sit on a chair.. and dulha's friend's pick it up.. and i dont remember what happened.. but something like that. its called chor mehndi.

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ohhh that sounds so much fun!!!

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Hi shay9164, I don’t know the specifics of mehndi rasams, but this is what I have witnessed and there are of course several variations on what follows:

**At Home: Girls side (Punjabi/Lahore)
**

  1. Guests all arrive at mehndi venue (home or hall) welcomed by girls family
  2. Guys side arrive and receive special welcome. Guy is seated at the stage waiting for girl.
  3. Girl is brought into room/venue with dupatta covering her face (partially or wholly) and 4 or 6 girls/guys holding a bridal (red or orange or yellow) duppata over her head - like a canopy.
  4. Girl is seated next to guy
  5. Brides Mom-in-law and sisters in law apply mehndi to both their hands (hand is covered with a leaf to prevent staining), money is whirled over their heads and they are fed mithai/fruit etc (some people also apply oil to hair and/or ubtan to skin)
  6. Girls side do the same as above
  7. Remainder guests do the same as family and dunk some money into the kitty (if they wish)
  8. Food is served (normally buffet)
  9. Grooms side leave at the end of evening

Sometimes: Engagement rings are exchanged at the event and sometimes people have their Nikkah marriage contract done at these events. It really depends on the families and their particular plans. Well off people tend to have a seperate day for each rasam/occasion i.e. tehl (oil), ubtan, mehndi, engagement, nikikah,etc. I know people on a budget who have successfully tied most of these up on a single day.

It would be VERY interesting to know what the traditional rasams are for mehndi ceremonies in Lahore, Karachi, Islamabad, US, UK, Canada…

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^ yeh alot of fun!

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Oh yea, it’s called chor mehndi… we did this on one of our cousins wedding after the mayon type thing of the guy… all the cousins even the baray log as all were up n awake having good time, went to the ladki walay did some hala gula but as ladki walay had all slept, girls father and mamoo really got angry at us, lol…
but we had our bit of fun… hehe…
Ahhh shaadi’s are sooo much fun.. :wub:

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hey eyelashes

i just read the thread you set up. I am inshallah getting married this summer in pakistan, and my mehndi is going to follow the same process. We are going to have two mehndis on the same night [as only live 2/3 minute walk from each others house in faislababd] and i wont go to my finaces mehndi and he wont come to mine. It is sooo family tradition and has to be followed even though i really wanted it to be together.

Basically as far as i know this is what happens:[ol]
[li]The grooms side come to your house with thaals of mehndi and you all welcome them, so girls family mainly with flowers thrown over them. The aim of them coming is to bring the brides to be yellow jora [so her mehndi clothes]. Basically when they bring that the bride to be so me will run off and get ready. [HOWEVER WILL HAVE PICKED THIS OUT BEFOREHAND AS WILL GO SHOPPING FOR IT WITH MY IN LAWS TO BE!][/li][li]While i am getting ready everyone else sits and is playing songs on the dholki in the main room where we will have the stage set up.[/li][li]Once i am ready my sisters, bhabis and friends bring me out to the stage under a nice colourful dupatta which my mum has just brought. It is red with lots of really beautiful work on it.[/li][li]Then they seat me on the stage. Then as far as i know my oldest bhabi to be from grroms side will put fresh flower based jewelery on me. Then everyone will take turns and come to do the following to the bride to be: Put oil in your hair, put mehndi on your hand[i will already have my mehndi done from parlour beforehand so ensure whole hand is covered with a HUGE GREEN LEAF so NONE of the mehndi goes on your actualhands, also feed you methiay[ensure you only have tiny bits as by the time everyones had a go you feel sick of mithai] then they circle money round your head and thats aboout it[this is dependent on individuals].[/li][li]While individuals take those turns, the dholki is being played and friends and sisiters are going to coregraph dances for my mehndi, so just the girls and they stay for a few hours. [OH BYE THE WAY YOU ALSO FEED THEM FOOD - generally starter dishes in pakistan and drink][/li][li]NOW.... its our turn and we take mehndi to my fiancees house. Piece of advice to you is if you have sisters ensure that they are leading the way to the mehndi with your mum and ensure they have a huge A4 MEHNDI PLATE with space for mehndi, oil and ubtan to put on the groom [It looks really good!] - you can get really nicely decorated ones from pakistan and heart shapes. The same sort of thing happens at the grooms house and hear my sisters and brothers will probably be dancing away......HOWEVER I WILL BE AT HOME, but its okay inshallah the next day we will be married![/li][li]Piece of advice is just chill out watch a DVD, or just head to bed as it will be a long day the next day.[/li][/ol]Anyway hope this is useful eyelashes, as this is all i am aware of.

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ooh yeah thats keyyy... chor mehndi's can only be administered if u are sure it'll be welcomed by the other side.. u wouldnt want badmazgi so close to the shadi.. haha..

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^ true...
But in our case, it was all family thing so obviously they didn't mind..