ok this is a question im asking couple of friends and ive got different answers.. i know this differs from family to family but just wanted the most common practice or the latest ín’ thing
is the bride wearing mehndi on her mehndi function… as in uski mehndi lag chuki hoti he (as in woh sookhi hui hoti he per dhuli hui nahin - hope u guys get wat im saying)…
coz my sisters were plain hands for their mehndi fuction (for the mehndi rasam with the pan ka patta, etc)… this was to give a diff look on baraat day.. and also coz the girl on mehndi is supposed to carry a simple look…
per this other friend of mine tells me k mehndi lagi hui hoti he, but not washed… woh jardhi hui hoti he sort… as in mehndi fuction k din subha lagti he or sumthing…
someone told me the guy is not suppose to see the mehndi until the shaadi day, but already put it on my sisters mehndi (it was a joint mehndi) i say it doesn't matter whatever way you do it
I think it is more dependant upon how much time you have. Some people may not have enough time between functions to have their mendhi done. It can also depend upon the booking of a mendhi artist- what time they can fit you in, as per your schedule.
I had my mehndi done on the day of the mehndi ceremony. I really wouldn't want that, cs u dont get to enjoy the function at all, not to mntion worrying incessantly about it.
I think it's more fun if the mehndi is done on the mehndi day, during the function itself. I know someone who had hers done on the day of the mehndi.. but only an hour before the rasams started. So her mehndi was dry when they put the leaf on her hand to do the rasams and all the guests still got to be part of the "bride getting her mehndi done" action. This was a girls only event by the way.. it could be a little more difficult if the event is joint.
We've started planning my mehndi (next April iA) and I'm planning on getting a mehndi artist to do the guests mehndi while the rasams and the singing/dancing takes place, and I'll get mine done towards the end of the function. So I can have bare hands for the rasam and still get the mehndi done during the mehndi event.
I think the idea is that the groom's side is bringing the mehndi (and bari) on the mehndi day, so in that sense the bride shouldn't have it yet. That's how I did and how most of my cousins did it.
But honestly, I love seeing it with the mehndi on and dry, not washed off yet.
No, the bride is not supposed to have mehndi on the mehndi day. The mehndi is done so that that seven suhaagans (married women) can apply them on the girl's hands for good luck. Nowadays a pan leaf (pam ka pata) is kept on the girl's hand's as the tradition of applying mehndi like jam has modernized into making intricate bridal designs on the girl's hands by a skilled mehndi artist.
A party is usually held at the bride's house with immediate family and friends a day before the baraat/nikkah/rukhsati and an artist comes over and applies the bridal mehndi on hands, arms and feet. The guests also get to apply mehndi as well on the same day.
My mehndi, wedding and valima were back to back from Friday to Sunday so there wasnt much time and I also preferred getting mehndi done on the day of the mehndi.
We had a party the night before the mehndi where we had the girl that was doing my mehndi come in with another girl and do all the female's mehndi the night before. Then I had the girl come in the next morning (day of the mehndi) to do my mehndi and my sisters. This way she wouldnt be tired (from putting mehndi on everyone elses hands) and wouldnt do a sloppy job, and would take her time doing it.
I also didnt want it done during the event at night because I knew I'd be dancing and meeting a lot of people and def did not want to worry about it. I hadnt washed it off but it was completely dry and was coming off by the time the event was going on. I also didnt wanna get it done the morning of the shaadi cuz i knew things would get very busy and also it might not have been as dark.
To give u more details, ive got a joint mehndi function and have given one day gap between my mehndi and baraat... ive booked my mehndi artist from long so her being available wouldnt b a problem .
I wouldnt want to apply mehndi during the ceremony as how wud the aunti's do the rasam etc... plus its a joint fuction, so i prefer not to do it.
Wat the picture i get from the replies by now, is that traditionally mehndi is supposed to be during the fuction or after the function and what may be in now a days is people doing it during the mehndi day....
i'll run the idea thru my young sister-in-law to c what is accepted in thier family and then ill call it a shot.
As far as my knowledge is concerned, mehndi on mehndi function doesn't have any theory behind it, it's just because some brides need to get their mehndi done from beauty saloons so they have to get it done in the morning (which is obviously before the function). I have seen some other cases like one of my friends had one day gap between her menhdi and barat functions so she didn't put mehndi on her hands on her menhdi celebration. So, I believe it depends on your convenience and time space.
personally i wudnt like to get my mehndi done on my mehndi function....im thinkin either have it done b4 or after jst in time for the shaadi day....cos i wudnt be able to enjoy the mehndi function if i had it applied that day id be too paranoid abt smudges, and it gettin ruined...etc etc.....
i dunno thats jst me....wen ppl in my family got married they usually had their mehndi either done (b4 and it was dry)...or did it after the function....my khala did it after for the actual shaadi day...
I have seen them being done before the mehndi event.. but that's because these days singing and dancing are a big part of them and noone would want to smear the mehndi everywhere.
In my family, the mehndi or mayun is usually held a couple of nights before so that the day before wedding is dedicated to putting mehndi on. It's a mini dholki type thing where all the girls get together, stuff/clothes are packed, family and relatives come over and the ladies put on mehndi. I quite like that because it gives you a break from all the shor hungama and a chance to unwind the night before.
