One side of my family has been the modern all-fun type relatives. The other side has been a not so liberal type. Now my brother’s in-laws also do not have dhol dhamaka dance etc on their mehendi events. In msot people’s views, relatively boring mehendi where only the mithai rasams and eating food is the activity.
I dont know how to keep a balance that no one gets bored & no one finds the fun inapproproate as well.I myself have always been okay with dholak and decent group dances of girls and those too only when the family is present. But my cousins are opposite. They are the sort who want the full hall filled with people wghile they go crazy dancing, have jam session random dances, bhangra for 20-30 minutes with the dhol and other such activities. I dont want things to go to that extent but i dont even want them to tag the event as ‘boring’ and not fun which has a large likelihood too. I wouldnt like it if some one calls the in laws a bunch of dull people or just tag them as conservative.
In my view, every one has their own space for allowing some things and specially because its their event, we are equally responsible for them to maintain the space they want to. So how do i keep a balance of things? We want to have some fun after all but we dont want things to go over the line of their demands.
Please tell me what to do. Please do not start lecturing on how our generation has lost their roots, how dancing is a big taboo activity or what ever. I hope the advises will be a balance of both - fun and decency!