Re: Meetups
Nothing wrong with making the first move as long as the girl does it in a decent way and doesn’t come off too strong. There is an art to it that some girls dont understand. If you come across too strong the guy will think “damn shes slutty she must do this with all guys” he will either back off or if he just wants to fool around he will think youre easy and youll likely get the wrong types of guys this way, while if you put up brick walls then the guy will just lose interest and give up and youll end up losing some good guys this way. Needs to be the right amount of interest and not coming off easy. The key is to be first and foremost selective. Don’t do it with every guy you see, doesn’t matter how good looking or charming he seems. Try to do your due diligence in advance before proceeding. The second key part is to throw out subtle signs that youre interested (I know I know I’m always stressing subtlety…it truly is classy). This is how you should handling your first move, it effectively conveys you’re interested while providing him a clear opportunity for him to then take the lead and take the interaction to the next level.
I dont think I have ever made the first move or approached a girl not because I’m shy but because I’m selective and borderline lazy to do small talk with girls I’m not interested in. So im talking from my own experience on what I liked and what turned me off when a girl approached me and conveyed interest. The thing is traditionally most girls who did make the first move would often come off too strong or weren’t usually decent classy girls they’d be girls who go around the block lol, so can’t blame us for having such initial thoughts 
(girls have same initial reactions with guys, wonder if he’s a player or flirts with every girl like this)
If the girl has an overall decent character she has nothing to worry about for initiating the convo or conveying interest first, guy wouldn’t be able to judge her in a negative way even if he tried!