Meeting someone online

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Re: Meeting someone online

@PunjaBee

This sounds exciting! Have you suggested FaceTime or video calling? I would try that at least once before an in person meeting, of course you would have to be comfortable with showing yourself. Another point of suggestion is to think objectively as opposed to emotionally. Treat it like an interview for an open position. Know what it is you want and what you have to offer; what he wants and what he as to offer. This will contribute to solidifying the big decision when the time calls for it. Don’t ignore red flags!!! And trust your gut.

The saying goes “You never know unless you try.” Don’t have expectations, be true to yourself and your values. Since you both live relatively close to each other I believe it won’t take you long to know whether he’s the real deal or not.

He’s already seen pics of mine so I figured meeting in person would be better. I don’t mind doing facetime but I can’t believe people make lifetime decisions based on the image they see with facetime or video calling. What if they have a really crappy computer monitor or the resolution on it sucks.

@Illuminate

Wow. I hope you hear from him. I guess if you don’t then you know what that means. It’s always dicey at first and then when you meet someone and get to know more about them and really observe who they are instead of telling yourself who you would like them to be you can make good judgments about them and what your future with them can look like.

@decentGuy

If this guy was fake, good riddance! However, there are certain other possibilities to consider.

Some people do not put their professional profiles online. I don’t have such a profile either, because I have some nosy relatives who ruined my peace of mind after they found out the place I used to work at.

Also, sometimes companies have satellite offices. I’ve interviewed at offices belonging to famous companies in nondescript buildings. Another possibility that comes to my mind is that he found your online stalking repulsive and gave up. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have done your investigation, but perhaps you should’ve kept it to yourself for a while.

I did hear from him again and what I wrote above Illuminate’s comment is what he told me afterwards. Right now he is a stranger so that’s why I’m talking to you all about it. Thank you decentguy, what you wrote did put my mind at ease but it’s not really snooping but I have to do some background checking because this is the rest of my life, which is what marriage is and when the online piece comes in, we know nothing about that person except for what they volunteer to us.