thanks again for your input. The mayoun and walima are posing the problem. I don’t have enough time to do a mayoun (we wanted to wait a 2-3 days after the mayoun to have the mehndi) and the way it’s looking now, the mehndi would have to be the night of eid (which would be a problem if, like every other year, no one can agree as to when Eid actually IS). Walima would basically have to be 6 months later because we’d have to fly across the country to have that where he’s originally from. It seems pointless/impossible to try to do it over the summer but neither one of us wants to wait another 2-3 years until we graduate to do it.