You are 20, and thus too young to get married. Yes, you have a job and all, but that doesn't mean you are ready to face the challenges involved in a marriage. One, needs to have the emotional maturity too. In my opinion, not many people are well-prepared to handle the problems involved in a married life at such a tender age.
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Originally posted by Ansoon:
I have a person in my life, and i have asked my parents for their permission.. i am willing to get engaged and then wait till i graduate to get married.. its just that i don't want my parents to either get to know of her from a third person (typical desi ppl do that!) OR i dont' want them looking around for a my rishta and then i have to turn their choice down.. i just want them to know what's going on in my life coz i think they deserve to know and its their rite as parents.
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I am confused here. You say, you have asked your parent's permission regarding the person you have been seeing, and then you go and say, you are scared your parents might come to know about "her" from someone else? ? ? So, what is the real thing? Do they know about it or not? If not, then tell them as soon as possible. I am sure they would understand and tell you what most of the people have told you .. Wait for a few more years b4 you get married. Yes, if you want to get engaged now and marry later then it's a different story. :)