I am not sure where to start but i need some serious suggestions.
I been or i think i been a pretty good sister to all of my siblings. Made sure i was there for them in every single way possible, my mom taught me family is the most important thing. No matter what they do i make sure they know they can always come their “apa” [me *grin].
My sister who goes to a university now Mashallah is simply a fabulous student, she makes all of us laugh acts like as if she is a freshman in highschool. When she is a freakin sophomore in UNI.
I cant seem to approach her lately. I can literally see through her. I can so see there is something going on in her life and i have asked several times and made sure she knows i am there no matter what.
She isnt telling me. She isnt telling ami ji or abu ji. What should i do. I need to know if there is anythign bothering her so i can protect her from any harm. Atleast i can try to protect her! She does come to me about almost everything and anything but i know there is osmething there that is bugging her or making her do something wrong. I can see that guilt feeling.
As per several others who have known me over the years they it very well i am a good sister. who can do anything to make her sibglins feel comfortable and happy.
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*Originally posted by ahmadjee: *
The best thing for you is to leave her alone and continue to pray for her.
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I don't think you just leave your loved ones alone. I like the way hiccup characterized her advice. Make sure she knows you are there for her.
She can't be a kid forever, and she may not use you as her confidant forever either. She is in university, and already an adult, and should be allowed to make her own decisions (i.e. who does she wants to share her thoughts). Yes, its difficult to let go, esp if you have seen them grow in front of your eyes, but its part of life.
Don't take too much tension. Everyone is allowed to make their own mistakes. Atleast some of them. Some of the time. You shouldn't expect to protect your loved ones from making their own.
nia Im sure your sister will open up to you, maybe she needs time to figure things out before she does so.I think its very sweet of you to be so caring, just make sure your sis knows you're there for her.Times like this ,I wish I had a sister.
Nia, like everyone said…just give her time and yeah she is an adult now…just like you thought you were an adult at that age…and that wasn’t too long ago Secondly, i suggest instead of trying to talk to her face to face, write a long email just letting her know that you are there for her…and be gentle and understanding. Lastly, just pray for her.
Give her space. People change. I've never liked sharing stuff with my sister or mother and even with my best friend (a cousin), I never share everything. Everybody needs their privacy and maybe it's a newfound need for her but respect it. And she needs to make mistakes too :) I'm glad I did...
I'm the baby of my family and I have an older sister. There could be various reasons why she isn't opening up and I've done this myself with my older siblings/parents quite a bit. She might be going through something like you have guessed, Nia. Like others have said, just let her know that you are there for her but don't push her to talk. Chances are, she'll come to you in her own time, when she's ready.
Are you prepared if its something like a boyfriend or drugs???
If You've always been a goody goody daughter then she may not want to tell you..for fear of disappointing you and stuff?
Id probably have a chat with her, put my arm around her and say = is everything ok? Id mention that she didnt seem to be herself lately.. and you know her well and you know somethings up.. and tell her whatever and whenever she needs to talk about something then tell me.. tell her you would never be judgmental and you would always do your best to help in whatever way you could!
and then walk away.. :) if she feels like talking she'l open up :)
Meanwhile do some research on drugs.. or whatever you think it could be?
mentally prepare yourself for stuff like boyfriend and etc etc etc
Secondly, i suggest instead of trying to talk to her face to face, write a long email just letting her know that you are there for her…and be gentle and understanding. Lastly, just pray for her.
